An only child but bro's and sisters would have been quite nice

[lovelymumof4]

I'm an only child and grew up having a nice childhood, although i often wished i had brothers and sisters to play with, or me and maybe one other. I think it explains why i had my four little darlings! I'm hoping they all only have one child each though as i don't fancy cooking for 16 grandkids when they all descend on me for Sunday lunch in years to come!!

I'm really not trying to be rude. Perhaps it might be better placed in the 'larger families' thread.

There's a long running thread here on the pros of having an only. Perhaps one about the pros of a larger family might be a nice one to start if there isn't already?

Erm, you start a light hearted thread in one child families to say that you were an only child and disliked it so much that you decided to have four children and then claim it is a light hearted thread and can't understand why people think it's insensitive. I find the whole innocent act hard to believe.

By the way, asking why get sensitive about it or offended is a great get out card - somehow shifting the blame on others for being sensitive/offended instead of accepting that this thread in this section was insensitive and apologising.

Well I can't see how it's insensitive I thought it's lighthearted I'm an only child but then people don't have to tip toe around me.

I'm an only child with an only child.

I can honestly say I never once wished for siblings. I was very happy. However, my Mum was a line parent so it wasn't really a possibility.

I have an only child because that's what dh and I want. Dd is perfectly happy though has occasionally expressed a wish for a sibling (she is 13 now though, and far too much of a selfish teen to learn to share )

I would never have a child for the sake of others. My body, my life, my choice. If dd doesn't like it that's unfortunate, but it wouldn't make me have a baby!

lone parent

Oh, and I wasn't offended OP.
Personal preference and all that. I wouldn't be offended by someone posting their favourite colour is blue when mine is green.

However, for those who have an only because they are unable, for whatever reason, to have another, your OP could be a bit of a kick in the gut.

It wouldn't be as insensitive to post this in chat or Aibu or even in response to someone facing being the parent of an only child in this section. In my opinion, it is however, insensitive to start a new thread in this section where a lot of people come for support because they are struggling with not being able to have more children or are dealing with unkind comments from people in real life about their decision not to have more children.

I never said i disliked being an only child. Nothing wrong with people choosing to have one child at all. Hold my hands up though, guess i posted in the wrong place.

Just wish some people would lighten up a little and share in a little light humour.

Likewise, I wish people would be a bit more sensitive about what they post and where they post it.

Enough said

I was an only child and was/am happy with it. I still think your posts are astonishingly tactless at best and willfully unkind at worst.

If someone says that something you've said has hurt them it's not a great sign if you respond by accusing them of being sensitive and having no sense of humour.

I am one of five, it was awful and none of us are close or really in contact with each other. There are good families and crap ones no matter how many kids are there. If you wanted siblings then be careful what you wish for.

Gosh, I got reported. Exciting.

Willfully unkind...hmm i don't think so.

You don't even know me love, so please don't accuse me of anything. I'm a perfectly nice, caring person. Good god, some people can be so spiteful.

Rise above it lovely

Trip-trap

I intend to Son

I think it's hard for someone like myself, who was only able to have one child and who tried really hard to have more, to read a post like this. It's someone saying I was an only child, so it's ok to post on here to say I was sad about it, so I chose to have 4. What's insensitive about that?

Well, try the fact that I was one of 6 and yearned for a big family. I couldn't have one, so I count the blessings of having one whenever I can. I don't, however, go onto the large family threads and say how great I am for the environment having just one child, but I know what it's like being part of a big family, cos I was from one. Or, I can afford anything for my only child, but I understand what it's like to be broke, cos I was a poor 6th child. I don't do it because it would be offensive.

I guess I must just think about others before I start posting about the inevitable truths in my life, which are sometimes unrelated to my preferences and choices.

Fair enough, I don't know the OP. She may well be lovely and spend her spare time saving kittens. On the other hand, as others have said, it's as though I called myself 'happytobeanonly' or 'thankgoodnessnosiblings' and posted on the large families board about how simply spiffing it was not to have to worry about sibling rivalry. I hope that if I did something that tactless/unkind/dim I'd be properly mortified if someone made me realise how hurtful I'd been. Oh well.

I spend my time with my hoard of lovely animals and children. Now go and get a grip and stop over analysing. Thank you.

Perhaps this would have been better posted in Chat (for a bit of a chat). I agree it can come across as a bit insensitive here, bearing in mind some parents haven't stopped at one by choice. It's not the post, it's the location.

I agree with the consensus on here that the OP has been quite insensitive and a little smug, but I'm not throwing stones 'cause I've been guilty of this myself .