Hello, i'm new here

[TheMumsRush]

I have a 13m ds. Two dsc. My dh is looking into getting the snip as he is 100 % he's done having children. At first I was ok with this, as i had a bad pregnancy, nearly died during emcs and a difficult first year. But now, after I realise I put way too much pressure on myself, I know I'd love to have another and would handle it differently. Can't help feeling like I'm going to regret this, I'm mid 30 's so not much time, but I know he won't budge. Lucky him with three kids sad

It also pains me to see how my sc are together, and knowing the relationship I had with my own siblings. It hurts to know ds won't have that

dh feels bad ds won't have that closeness with a sibling but can't face another child. He says ds will have the dsc but the dsc already shut ds out his/their room when they are here and play together sad poor ds, sits on the other side of the door and cries. It breaks my heart. we have the dsc eow.

im adding these things as i first posted in step parenting

Well I broached the subject this morning, it's a firm no sad. He said he can't keep doing things he doesn't want to do to keep others happy. He said he's not great with children as it is. We are planning to move closer to his kids so he says ds may see them more, go round theirs to play hmm

TheMumsRush

The "shutting out younger sibling" would happen whether your child had a full sibling or step-sibling. It is more often than not the age gap - many children who are not yet teens would not know what to do with a toddler. Also, there is never a guarantee that your DS will get on with any future sibling. There are many people out there wishing they were an only child (even as they grow older).

You don't say what the age gap is between your DS and your DSC. India Knight did a good article about blended families in the last couple of weeks. Perhaps with effort and much time you can help all the DC to think of each other as siblings whatever the bloodlines.