I have one child - DS, aged just 2 years old. Despite trying for another (mc in July) it isn't happening so I'm trying to move on.
Anyhoo, I'm feeling guilty that my DS doesn't have any close playmates, or regular social groups. And wondering how to go about making 'new friends', for both of us...
He DID have some, a regular group - we met several times a week - but due to issues re. bad behaviour (the mums, not just the kids!) and the poor response I got when I went thru my mc, I have recently taken us out of this social group. I no longer feel comfortable with the mums, and the kids all tend to moan and whine and aren't particularly happy or pleasant to be around (see earlier comment re. bad behaviour!). Of this group, I am the only single-child parent - the other mums have 2 or more kids.
So, this week I set up a new timetable of activities for each day (I am mostly a full time mum, altho I teach one day a week), attending play centres and other toddler groups. We (DS and I) keep busy, see family, other friends, but I am feeling guilty that he doesn't get to romp around with boys his age. He LOVES other kids, always says hello to other kids and asks kids to "play with me". He is very sociable, and I have been unable to provide him with a brother or sister playmate.
Is this situation quite common? Do other mums struggle to find regular 'comfortable' playdates? Without appearing sad or desperate, how do I approach other mums of boys this age and try to suggest our kids meet up?! I don't intend to send DS to nursery until he qualifies for the 15 hours free or thereabouts, and whilst I'm home (my choice) I want to look after him (I didn't have kids so I could dump them with someone else!). I guess it's a bit like moving to a new area and starting again. [I am grateful I have family around - but they are all adults, no other kids.]
Ultimately, is this going to adversely affect my little boy?
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OvenReady · 13/11/2012 16:23
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