Episode 34 - The Tearoom moves to New England

[beanandspud]

At this time of year New England is famous for its glorious foliage as billions of leaves change from green to a kaleidoscope of colours. The air is crisp and cool ? perfect for hiking, biking or a drive along back roads, where farm stands are piled high with crunchy apples and orange pumpkins.

Everyone is welcome. There are tea, cakes and wine aplenty so pull up a comfortable chair and join us.

The usual rule applies - no fisticuffs please!

[UniS]

snow rain, snow sleet, snow, snow snow. starting to look pretty again round here.

Wonder how hard I shall have to work to persuade DH to let me drive us both to work tomorrow in the borrowed landrover.

[Jacksmania]

Sunny day and no fog!!! And I'm working all day .
And back to rain tomorrow thanks DH, I could have done without that piece of news [grrrrrrrr].

[Jacksmania]

Ugh, I'm glum today :(
Was feeling ok yesterday (a bit wibbly because yesterday was kindergarten registration day and I can't believe JB is going to be 5 next month), but today I'm just really, really down.

To explain: had a specialist appointment two weeks ago, and will be needing a hysterectomy to finally completely fix all my problems from JB's birth. Will be keeping my ovaries but all else is going. I'm having a hard time getting my head around the fact that this is what it's come to. Plus, big surgery (it has to be done abdominally), 6 weeks off work, recovery, all that.

I'm swinging back and forth between accepting and just feeling so very sad :(

[beanandspud]

(((hugs))) JM and virtual or if that helps at all.

I'm not surprised that you feel , you've been through so much already and it takes time to adjust to the thought of surgery, whatever the reasons. Can you keep focused on the end result? I am guessing (hoping) that this will give you a better quality of life than you had? Do you have anyone that you can talk it through (I seem to remember that there was someone that you could talk through your anxieties before, apologies if I've dreamed that up).

Small Bean is five next month too - where on earth did that time go, I still struggle when I see him in his school uniform and wonder where my baby went.

We're all here to hold your hand, keep 'talking' if it helps.

[ComeIntoTheGardenMaud]

Oh, JM. You're entitled to feel glum. It's a big operation. But after all this time you will be (I hope) fixed.

Everyone here will hold your hand.

[Jacksmania]

Well, on the hopeful side, that should be the end of it. I don't know what I would do if it isn't, TBH. But that should sort things.
I do have a wonderful counsellor, bean, you didn't dream that, and I've already been to see her. It helps. But as much as I'm trying to deny it, it's a really big deal. Well, to me, anyway. :)

thanks all

[ComeIntoTheGardenMaud]

Yes, sweetie, it is a big deal. I'm sure Bean is right and you need to focus on what you'll gain - quality of life - but it may be a long haul. Good luck.

[ComeIntoTheGardenMaud]

Hello, Middy.

[UniS]

Hi Middy. care for a hot chocolate and a cookie? Mellors is just taking cookies out of the Aga. Triple choc or raisin and oatmeal depending on how virtuous your feeling tonight.

JM - That sucks, but hey ho, if it's what has to be done to make life better in the long run... Can you pick when to minimize the impact of the 6 weeks not driving etc?

Still snowing gently, not very very thick on the ground yet, but enough that I need to get up a bit early and see what state the corner of the lane is in before I try and drive round it. Might need to shovel snow and scatter grit. REALLY hope school isn't shut, but had 2 friends offer to be back up in case it is.

[Jacksmania]

Welcome Middy :)

I am being virtuous in real life (carrots and hummus, anyone?) so will pig out on any virtual cookies going.

Unfortunately I have no choice about the surgical schedule. They'll ring me about a month in advance. Any time in the next 12 months.
Meh.

[mistlethrush]

JM - of course its a big deal, and I can understand the glumness - but I hope it will be a fresh start for you and an end to all the problems.

Middy - nice to see you - what is your beverage of choice for the morning?

UniS - hope the snow is not too bad - sounds from the weather forecast that you've been having a bad time of it (speaking generally) - we managed to get MC out on the toboggan on Monday evening after school as the snow was much better on the Monday than it had been at the weekend - he had been grumpy about us saying that there wasn't enough over the weekend.

I've got a cub uniform to buy !!! He's going after school so gets to wear it all day at school that day too (and he'll be VERY pleased as its a day out of a shirt and tie!!!).

[UniS]

SNow snow snow. woke up to about 3 inches of white stuff blanketing teh village. DH did 40 mins work on teh corner and got it clear enough that both he and I were able to leave with no problems - I love having winter tyres on our car. Took both vehicles to keep more flexibility about timings which turned out to be just as well.

School closed at midday and my back up plan swung into action, boy had a fab afternoon and went sledging with a friends family.( to whom I owe many many thanks) I had a boring day of PAT testing cables, as it snowed , sleeted and rained outside teh barn. 12k of electric heaters and a generator that needed a decokeing run of several hours helped keep the chill off in side the barn.


No problems on the drive in either direction tho car was needed as there was slush on even the A roads. Its snowing again now we are all home... Might be slege to school tomorrow as well.


So, now thats the working day done lets hunker down by the stove and listen to silly songs.
Make and drink hot chocolate

[Jacksmania]

This is how I feel today.

(It's actually pretty cute.)

[LaBelleDameSansPatience]

JB, of course you feel sad. It is a big thing; physically, emotionally and psychologically. You need time to get used to the idea, and time to mourn what is finishing (even the bad bits). And then you can move on, and it will be hopefully a very positive future.
and a [bsmile] to go with your check shirt.

[UniS]

[bsmile]
[bgrin]
[bwink]
[bshock]
[bhmm]
[bconfused]
[bblush]
[bangry]
[bsad]
[benvy]
[bbiscuit]

The NMBs wish you a happy burns night the noo.

[UniS]

See you in a week or so. Going to be off line for a while.

[UniS]

Leave breadcrumbs , please.

[Jacksmania]

Where are you off to?

[Scout19075]

All Sunday mornings should be spent in a hotel bed, snuggled between my boys, watching cartoons. Bliss.

[beanandspud]

[beanandspud]

[ComeIntoTheGardenMaud]

::Makes sure the aspidistra doesn't get left behind::