We decided on the one but....

[BeckiMilliesMummy]

We decided on the one but We both keep saying how much we want to go through it all again (pregnancy, labour, newborn). Our DD is 6 months old now and has been an absolute angel. We haven't lost a nights sleep, she eats well, she's absolutely gorgeous I could go on forever! I didn't enjoy being pregnant. I didn't find out until I was 17 weeks. I had SPD and awful heartburn. Had to be induced and had a very quick labour with no pain relief (and she was 10lb 1.5oz!) But it was still the most perfect thing I've ever done.
We both want to be able to give her whatever she wants without worrying about having to get 2 of everything/ do the same for the other child and we want to be able to devote all our attention on her... I personally don't think I could love another baby as much as I love her... but we still keep saying we want to do it all again. My OH said he even wants to be able to go to all the midwife appointments again and hear the heartbeat etc.
Everyone keeps asking when we're having another one and we tell them that we're not but that we want to have her all over again.
Have any other mums felt like this?

I think there's a difference between the theoretical reasons for stopping at one (it's what you'd both agreed, easier financially, don't know if you'd love another as much etc) and the actual feelings you are now both experiencing of wanting another child.

I can't say I've felt like that, as I've never doubted my choice to stop at one, but I think you need to accept that your reasons for not having another aren't particularly compelling. I think most parents have some worries about loving another child, and treating them fairly, but they nearly all seem to manage it just fine once it happens!

If you both want to do it again, I think you're much more likely to regret not doing it when you look back in the future than you'll regret any compromises that you have to make with more than one child.

Thanks for replying. It's definitely a tough one. If we had another one it's for the wrong reasons right now I think... atm I don't think we ever will have a 2nd but things can change.
I don't want to sound like we're not enjoying every moment of her growing up because we really are. Just feel like it's going far too quickly.

What strikes me about your first post is that you say you want a repeat of the pregnancy/labour/newborn stage. You don't say you want another child or a sibling for the child you have.

Your baby is still very young, so I think you have time on your side and can spend a bit more time thinking about what is is that you are feeling here - is it doubt about your decision to stop at one, a genuine desire for another child or just the sense that many of us have about how quickly time is passing and nostalgia for the baby stages that have already passed?

I don't think people should make final decisions about things when they don't know what is going to happen round the corner, people change, feelings change, opinions change. There are some decisions that there isn't any point in making because you literally don't know how you are going to feel tomorrow.

We just started the whole 'wanting another' phase. I was determined to stop at one, after chaos and horrible PND with DS1. He's now 20mo, and just decided to try again. It's taken a long time to come to that decision. I would really love a big family, in theory, but I think DC2 will be make or break on having more.
Good luck with your decisions x