has everyone here chosen to have only 1 child or medical reasons chosen for them?

[cheekycurls]

I have a DD, she is the best thing to ever happen to me and would love more but due to fertility issues it's not likely!

as bad as this makes me feel it's been made ever worse by DD asking for a baby brother or sister and quite frankly I just don't know how to answer her, my line so far has been 'some families just have one child' but this is has not stopped her asking.....

not sure why I'm posting really..... advice, reassurance, help, I dunno something to help me not feel so bad

DD is only 4 so can't really go into the truth, just never thought it would be this hard!!!

I have decided to only have the one, i think, cos i have very bad Post natal depression, and also have fertility issues due to PCOS, I am happy having the one, and consider him to be a little miracle, also i dont think i would be emotionally strong enough to face another miscarriage.

Just the way life is. Maybe tell her, that sometimes, no matter how much you want something, it doesnt always happen!

Not sure if it helps, but another voice from the other side: my father had testicular cancer when I was an infant, so there were no siblings for me. My parents explained it to me as "Daddy was ill and now can't help Mummy make any more babies". That satisfied me, and later I grew to appreciate how lucky they were to have me when they did!

I don't know if anyone is still reading this thread, but I'd like to say a thank you for all the posts- especially from those with testaments to the sanity of older only children!
I also fall into the 'unexplained infertility' category and have spent the last 10years trying to conceive with only my (wonderful) DS to show for it. He was conceived by IUI after 4 years of trying. Several rounds of IUI, IVF later and a couple of mc's and no. 2 still hasn't shown up. Just as I think I've truly embraced the joy of having just one, I find out another friend or Mum at school is PG and it's like a blow to the stomach. As happy as I feel for them, I can't help but take it personally, something I could never explain without huge embarrassment.
We are still planning on doing one last round of IVF, which seems to be dragging on forever, partly due to rising FSH levels, partly as I build up my mental strength again to face the gruelling emotional trauma I know it will involve. For us we need to go through this in order to move on properly.
Thankfully DS hasn't asked about siblings- though he caught me holding someone's baby the other day and looked at me in surprise saying 'Wow, Mummy, did you make a baby?' One of those laugh on the outside cry on the inside moments.
The school playground is hard for those aspiring for more, but also a good place to find others in a similar situation who can provide similar support to this thread. Though by the length of my post you can tell I don't get enough of it!!
Good luck cheekycurls, I hope you it doesn't take too long to see the joys of just the one. Presently I'm going for the 'good for the environment' argument...