Sudden Urge to have the second baby

[deca]

Hi Everyone.

I am 40 years old mother of a lovely girl aged 5. Up to a month ago I was sure that I wasn?t going to have the second but since turning 40, I got this urge to have another one. My husband said that it is my decision but he would prefer to keep as we are. We both work FT and life is already extremely busy.

I would appreciate if you could share your experience:
Did you have an urge for the second when you reached 40?
Did you have the second? If not do you regret/think about it?
Will this urge go away ?

I'm 32years old. I have one child who is 16months old, at the moment I do not have an urge to have another one. Sometimes I think that if I had knew what I was letting myself into I wouldn't have had a baby.
If you know that having another child will make you and your husband happy then its okay to have a second child.

Deca..I'm finding it such a difficult decision. I'm 37 and have a 2 1/2 year old DD. I have been happy with 1 until recently and suddenly my hormones have gone mad...I think about a 2nd all the time but change my mind by the hour! DH is happy at 1 (I had to convince him to have 1) but I think he's open to persuasion. We have recently moved to France with DH's job and I am currently not working, so in some ways it is a perfect time...though having 2 kids with no help from family is daunting. I sway between wanting to experience the baby days again, and watch another amazing little person grow and develop...and the worry about money, time, patience....coupled with the whole clock-ticking thing. It's currently consuming my whole being and it's driving me mad!!!

Thanks for the reply.
I am also change my mind every hour :-) We decided to wait a month before making any decision.

Deca, I'm going through this and it's really surprised me as I've never been broody. Am putting it down to age too. Am pushing 40. Have you decided since your op?

Hi nicknamealreadyinuse
yes, i decided to try for another baby, but i have noticed that the urge seems to be going away.

I had my DD when I was 41 and am trying for another (i'm now 45) If it happens, it happens, but either way we've got a lovely little girl who brings so much happiness into our lives.
Don't think that turning 40 is the end...go for it!

We just decided to try for DC2. DS is 20 months, and I was determined I didn't want another after PND and chaos of DS. Now finally feeling level and happy, ready and prepared to go through it again. This will decide if we have more I think.
Good luck in whatever you decide x

I have one daughter who is 14. I have had thoughts about having another one over the years and have had MC's. Now I am 41 and it is consuming my thoughts completely again and I am worrying that time is running out for me. DH is 51 and says he is too old. I regret not really trying for a second child with DH before and now fear it might be too late.