Sorry for adding a thread which has probably already been thrashed out many times before, but am quite new to MN and have also read loads of the other threads around this issue...but still unsure what to do.
Have DD 0f 3.5 and have just moved to small 2 bed house in a great area near good nursery and primary, after much struggling to get here from crap area...took 2.5 years out to care for DD as was self-employed and couldn't stretch to childcare until she started at nursery and now has 25 free hrs a week. Have just retrained as baby massage instructor and am looking for work locally too...
I have a great sis 6 yrs my junior whom I adore and couldn't imagine life without. DH has sister abroad with whom he has practically nothing in common (18 mnths apart) and with whom he fought like cat and dog. Still do...
We are just now starting to settle into our new place and live in a fab little street where everyone is so friendly and all the kids run around on the pavements together- like a village, but still in London- it's amazing and never had that anywhere in London before.
I think DD would benefit so much from a sibling, but the thought of another pregnancy and the first year fills me with some dread, I must admit...DD was an easy baby, but I am not getting any younger, my new career hasn't even started yet, we don't have much space, and I had a horrible experience giving birth thanks to shit NHS policies in that particular hospital.
Am completely torn whether to do it all again or not- or keep our little family of 3 as it is...would I be letting my DD down if she remained a single child? Would I be too stressed and tired to have another at 40 and rock our status quo too much? I can't help thinking I am making excuses and it's not in my heart to have a 2nd (except the pressure from society to have one) but just when i think I have reached that decision, I seem to wobble and change my mind again...don't just want to have another baby because "it's for my DD", but also because I actually want one- can't make up my mind!!! DH happy either way, as his sibling relationship is bad anyway.
Any thoughts you may have I'd love to hear them :-) thanks.
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storminateacup10 · 03/07/2011 21:01
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