does anyone here have secondary infertility?

[kelway]

just wondered. seems to me from the threads i have glimpsed at that most of you's here are young and have one child through choice, sadly that's not the case for me, just wondered....

Am old and have one child thanks to medical science working where nature had failed!

Yes, I was diagnosed with secondary infertility, though my consultant was at pains to tell us that since he could actually find nothing wrong with either of us that we might both be able to have a baby with different partners(!).

My suspicion is that a uterus infection following CS, and then a perforated uterus during a D&C may have something to do with my failure to conceive.

I've a four year old dd, and been TTC for almost two years now. Investigations have come up with pretty crap sperm count for my DP, only answer to which is ICSI that we can't afford at six thousand a go!

Are you TTC or what stage are you at kelway? it's so hard to accept things and move on when it seems like everyone else falls pregnant just by looking at their other half!

hi littlesham', i have given up ttc now, i turned 46 the other day and have accepted it, i did a long while ago to be honest although in my heart i still prey for one of those miracles you hear, about a women in her 50's whose body has one of those last minute hormonal rushes just before it is too late, can happen, my various gyni's over the years have told me. 2 years is long for ttc, i know, however it actually isn't that long and you may still have a chance so don't give up.
sukie' - they too couldn't find anything wrong with either me or dh, i had many tests at 40 (i am 46 now), i too came up with the idea that possibly my uterus may have sustained some kind of damage in labour, even though i appeared to have a normal (if not overly long) labour, you just never know, don't give up yet though, i have to as i am being realistic due to age. actually, for me anyway, i found hope one of the hardest things, for years i dreaded now as i have no hope but in a way it makes it easier, more final although i do miss those months i still had hope when ttc and i thought i was pg, i loved those months when i thought i was, i had a fair few too, one of which i definately was (i had a scan to do with something else and there it was, a fetal sac) only i came on two weeks later, to say i felt bleak at that point was an understatement as that was the best my body had achieved in 5 years of trying. never mind, i have so much that is great i count all my blessings xx