Silly question but stressed!

[notsotinybaba]

This seems like a really silly question but I've been getting so stressed lately, so please bear with me!.

DD is booked in nursery 3 days a week starting in August.

MIL has offered to look after her for one day a week, which means we could reduce the nursery care to 2 days a week. Obviously this will be great as DD loves MIL, she is great with her and is a wonderful grandmother. However I am worried that DD would have no consistency in carers/routine as her week would look like this:

Mon - MIL at her house
Tues/ Weds - Nursery
Thurs am - DH, Thurs PM - me
Fri - DH
Sat/Sun - DH/ me

Does anyone else have a similar routine? Should I just stop worrying?

Sorry this seems daft but I do worry

I've heard opinions that it's not great to be in nursery for just one day a week as they don't necessarily settle, but more than one is fine, and apart from that she is with family who she knows really well, so she will benefit from lots of different influences of people that love her, and I think she will have a great week with lots of variety.

Forgot to ask - how old is DD? Although I'm not sure that would change my opinion at all

Thanks conkertree, DD is 17 months, so will be 19 months when she starts bursery

ooops nursery not bursery!

Feeling ok about it now I think but would be really interested to hear if anyone has a similar routine, and any advice, thanks!

Routine with my dd1 was similar-ish (she is 6 now).

I am a nurse so apart from I always had Mon and Tues requested as days off the routine was:

Mon/Tues (me, unless on a course or emergency, in which case extra session at nursery)

Wed/Thurs 2 full days at nursery

Fri a.m. me

Fri p.m. me and/or dh. - he finishes at 1pm on Fridays.

Weekends - me and/or dh (depending on my shifts)

Occasionally my mother would have her but this was not a regular arrangement due to distance.

I think (I used to run a 1-2 room at a nursery) that at that age they need to do 2 mornings a week at least or 2 days - as otherwise it is too long between sessions and very unsettling for the child. Your daughter will cope well I'm sure - she knows her grandmother and apart from those 3 days - the other 4 are spent with her mummy/daddy.

DS2 only does one day at nursery and he's always been fine (started at about 6 months). DS1 does 2 days and still doesn't enjoy it, he did do three and that was much worse!! When they settle in they'll do shorter sessions over more days anyway.

We did something similar. Dd was about 11 months old when we started.

She never had any problems switching between childminder/MIL/DH & I.

A friend of mine has a similar set up. Mon/Tues mum, Wed/Fri chidminder, Thurs grandmother. Works well as far as I know.

Great, thanks everyone