Different nursery to friends

[girlbythesea]

My 3 year old daughter has started at a pre-school nursery each morning in the neighbouring town. It is attached to the local private school and is a very good nursery. I didn't want her to go to the local pre-school because they didn't have many facilities and said things like they wouldn't change her underwear if she wet herself. She still goes to a local childminder in the afternoon with little friends she has known all her life. However they all go to the local nursery and school. She doesn't seem to mind so far, but do you have any advice about how I should handle this when she asks why she is different? Will the other children care about this, or are they all too young?

IME it's not until children hit 5 or 6 that they start noticing these sort of things for themselves. They are so self-centred (in a positive, small child kind of way) that I don't think they even wonder what their friends do when they are apart.

Unless your DD picks up on your concerns or worries, or hears something from a friend's mummy, she is unlikely to question where she goes each day.

Thank you piprabbit, that is very reassuring. I think I have been a lot more anxious about it than her...

I remember my DDs horror and outrage when she came home from school one evening about 3 weeks into starting reception class.

She was stunned to realise that DS and I had been playing together while she was at school. The fatal clue was that I'd not put the toys away before going to collect her.

I'm not sure what she thought we were doing all day - perhaps that we just sat very still waiting for her to come home .

I'm sure your DD will be fine with your decision. And she'll soon make some additional friends at nursery, the more the merrier really...

he he! what a funny story. Yes, their egos are monumental aren't they, in such a small container!

She seems to have got into it now, though it's tiring. She's started mentioning the names of a few people in her group. The only people paying the price are me and DH driving about between nursery and childminder....

thanks so much for your advice.