My child has been attending a nursery since early this year. The carers have been complaining abt him saying "he is not doing what he's told!" "doesn't seem to process what the carers are telling him to do". they even said he is aggressive/dangerous towards other children, though they haven't elaborated on what exactly he's been doing. We know he wants to crash things like it happens in "Thomas tank engine" or "The cars" racing film. We think he's just imitating what he's seen in the tv and DVDs and he did used to get very excited when he sees such crashes on Thomas tank engine. Once it seems he has pushed a girl in the nursery but wouldn't say sorry to her even after asked by the carers. I know! it happened even with his little sister. He says he want to "say sorry the mummy". But he doesn't understand he has to say to his sister. But, now-a-days poor boy is saying sorry even to the walls and sofa when he bumps into them.yes this is another thing he does bumps into things, sth he may have learned through playing with the daddy. He wants run fast and give a hug/cuddle.the woman says he might be autistic b'se he walks on his tip toes(?).(He might have been doing this b'se he needs to wee or his shoes were a bit small after he has grown.(he has got new shoes now though). I got him into a routine to make him go to the toilet before I leave him in the nursery, b'se he wet himself thrice during his 1st week and moreover the toilet doors weren't open, which could only be open by an adult by bending over the short door, the bolt is inside. I've noticed children struggling to open the door when they were in need.So they said he doesn't like his routines to be changed. Once he was bringing back other child's "post man pat bag", while I was telling him that isn't his the carer told "this is not yours" in a way as if they don't want him there. I just didn't like the way she told him off. They say he is not like other children, he is not understanding according to his age or is not in line with other children's development.well i never gave him lots of 2time out periods or naughty steps". but after all these I started giving him "naughty corner and naughty step periods". The result, now-a-days instead of doing what he is told (sometimes) he just says he would sit on the naughty step. He is a boisterous player. They even have a complaint that he has only one friend at the nursery which they have put it as "unhealthy obsession with 1 child". could someone here tell me whether he is being a normal active/overactive boy or is a ADHD boy? is this normal for a boy to behave this way? I just don't like even to send him to that nursery