advice needed: am i being selfish?

[leeanne1407]

im just wondering on what other people thought about this
im a single mum at 23 with my son who will be 2 in august and i dont have any family to help out to watch him so when he was born i gave up work and for the last 2 years ive watched him 24/7, so this year in august ive decided to go back into full time education and put my son in to nursery full time, so i can get a good job by the time hes ready for school and i do think it will be good for him getting to play with kids his own age and not be so dependant on me all the time
but im just not sure if im just being selfish and wanting a little bit of my life back
what do yous think

Nope not selfish at all.

I think it's a marvellous idea that you have decided to go back into full time education so you can support yourself and your son in years to come. Full time education at the upper end such as degree or NVQ doesn't even need the sort of hours a full time job does which many women do with children your sons age and younger. Go for it. Wanting a better future for your son and yourself is not selfish.

What is selfish about wanting to give you and your son a better life. I say go for it, he will enjoy socialising and you will enjoy meeting people and you will have the holidays to do things as a family, you could always look at CM's if you want a more family atmosphere.

I did this last year (although full time nowadays sometimes means just 3 days a week actual attendance).

I've just finished my course, came out with a distinction and I tell you, I am a much better mum for it and DS loves, loves, loves nursery.

It was the best thing I ever did.

You are not being selfish, and there's nothing wrong with getting a bit of your life back. In the long run (and quite probably the short run too) it will benefit you both.

Good luck to you.

Go for it, not selfish at all.

Not selfish at all - good on you for getting back into education.

My DS adores it at nursery

thanks, im just a bit worried becuase hes never been away from me then im putting him into nursery fulltime straight away, sounds daft but im scared incase he hates me for it lol

Make sure he has proper settling in sessions, my advise would be to start a few weeks before you go back to study full time. He'll need a bit of time to adjust, like most children do

i know well the nursery is in the middle of moving to the new campus so ive to phone them at the begin of august to arrange for him to go up and see the nursery and stuff so that still gives him a good few weeks as we dnt start till the 24th

agree with the setlling in and also with what a wonderful thing you are doing. You will be gicing yourself and therefore your son so many more options for the future.

Be prepared for some tears - it is natural but he will be fine and if nursery is on the campus where you are studying you are right at hand if you are needed, sounds perfect to me.

What are you goign to study btw?

yeah the nursery is on the same campus as college thankfully , and im going to study interactive media and web design