taking a child out of nursery because he/she doesn't like going there...

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I have relatives who have taken their 3.5yo out of nursery, so she is no longer attending the free nursery education (they had difficulties with the nursery, but haven't made any attempt to get her into a new one in the area).
I was just wondering how others feel about this. Would you pull your child out of nursery and not get them into a new one ASAP, so that it will be easier for them to integrate with their peers when they start primary school??

I know it's not compulsory for kids to go to nursery, but surely if they want her to benefit they'd try and find another nursery sharpish.

meant to add that she didn't like going because of one staff member. there were other issues (to do with potty training, shyness etc) too, which meant the parents made the decision to just pull her out of that particular nursery.

i would take my child out of a nursery in a second if they weren';t enjoying it.

as for whether i'd find antoher one. yeh, i might. it would depend on whyt I had taken them out, if I felt they weren't ready for it yet then i would let them have a break and try again later.
if it was just a matter of disliking a member of staff then I would probably look straight away, but it wouldnt' be a huge rush at 3.5yrs tbh.
i'd want to look around a lot and choose the best one, not just stick them in any old place asap.

i know plenty of children who don't go to nursery/pre-school who have been absolutely fine when they started reception, so i don't think it actually matters that much

I wouldn't send a child to nursery if they didn't like going.

It's not necessary to send a child to nursery - children will settle in at reception without it.

thanks for your input . true, not all children need nursery, but it doesn't hurt them to be mixing with others their own age.

the parents thought they had chosen the best one actually (after looking at a Government website), and it's turned out that they hadn't. there's been a complaint put in to the council about the staff member.

Nursery isn't the only place a child can mix with other children though. It isn't a choice between nursery and isolating them entirely.

If this were me I would only look at another nursery when I thought my dc was ready for it. Just because nursery education is free, it is not compulsory, and isn't always beneficial.

Very unusual for an entire nursery class to transfer to a reception class, so I doubt that her ability to integrate with her school peers is really at stake.

Personally I think that the parents may be making a hugely positive statement to their child about her value to them, but it really depends very much on the individuals and the source of unhappiness.

well, I might want to try to find another one because I wanted some free time..., NOT because I thought it would be necessary before starting school. Dd went to playgroup. Although she loved it she often just wanted to stay at home with me. To the surprise of other parents I would take her back home.

both parents are at home all the time, one is on JSA and the other is self-employed, and their daughter doesn't mix with other children (they don't do 'play dates').

hope they find another nursery soon for her.

thanks for the advice.

Children don't have to go to nursery to prepare them for school - that's what Reception is for. That's why it's called Reception, not Year 1!

they can use accredited childminder for her 5 nursery sessions instead if they only want her mixed with few children