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cp2009 · 23/04/2009 17:42

Just been and picked up my little one from nursery and the nursery nurse kissed hom goodbye on the lips? Is this normal practice? I felt quite strange about it.
Am not suggesting there is anything untoward happening, but not sure what to do or how to broach the subject with the person involved... help!

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purepurple · 23/04/2009 18:21

yuk, I avoid kissing the little darlings
that's just too famaliar

TrinityIsLovingHerLittleRhino · 23/04/2009 18:26

I would find it over familiar unless he had been there for a very long time and you knew her to say hi to in the street and stop and chat therefore she was more than just a nursery teacher to him

Littlefish · 23/04/2009 18:45

I wouldn't like it, and I don't think it's appropriate. I've worked in a nursery and would not have dreamed of kissing any of the children. Lots of hugs and affection, but definitely no kisses.

How old is your dc?

BunnyAndJoon · 23/04/2009 18:46

I wouldn't have a problem with it.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 23/04/2009 18:48

How old is your LO? Would think it a bit overfamiliar with a 4 year old, but would be happy to see it happen with anyone younger. After all, nursery nurses operate in loco parentis, and I would want them to give lots of affection and cuddles at nursery as I think younger children need this. If I had witnessed the kiss and my child was equally happy to receive it, then I would feel grateful that they had someone who cares so much for them in my absence.

HSMM · 24/04/2009 08:14

We have banned all friends and family from kissing our DD on the lips, because there are too many people who suffer from cold sores. I would be very if a member of staff kissed her on the lips!

CurlyhairedAssassin · 24/04/2009 10:11

Hmm....yes, there is the possibility of cold sores, I suppose. DS1 caught the herpes simplex virus from somewhere when he was 2 - he couldn't eat or drink properly for a week as his tongue and mouth were covered with huge sores (cold sore virus is very nasty the first time it hits your immune system, apparently). As far as I know, neither I nor DH have the virus, so I am assuming he caught it from someone else who'd kissed him , perhaps grandparents who I know suffer from cold sores from time to time.

Thinking about it, perhaps a kiss on the cheek would be a good compromise, OP?

StealthPolarBear · 24/04/2009 10:13

Ds's key worker does this when he's leaving from time to time, I like it!

tiggerlovestobounce · 24/04/2009 10:20

I think its inappropriate. I wouldnt like it. Affection and cuddles are fine, but a kiss on the lips is going too far to me. One of my DDs nursery nurses once kissed her on the lips, and I wasnt happy with it, so I discussed it with the nursery manager, who said that she thought it wasnt appropriate behaviour.

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cp2009 · 24/04/2009 17:47

Thanks for your replies my little one is 14 months. I'm happy for kisses on the cheek and cuddles, but the lips just seemed a bit over familiar to me. Think will follow your example tiggerlovestobounce and mention it. He has only just moved up a room so its not anyone who has known him for a long time.

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kiow8 · 02/05/2009 21:22

i work in a childrens nursery. to me this is innapropriate, i have not come across this before in the settings i have worked in.
kisses on the cheek are okay and common in settings

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