Nursery etiquette re 'lost property'

[carolynd]

I'm a relative nursery novice (6m months), so looking for some advice. For the last few weeks we've been giving the nursery cloth nappies to use instead of disposables as previously. This week my ds has come home missing one nappy. I phoned to check whether it still happened to be lying around in a corner somewhere and am waiting to hear back! I'm pretty sure though that they've chucked it out by accident. They cost £17.50 each(+ P&P), so not insignificant. I don't really have any nappies to spare and may well have to buy another one. Do you think I should be asking / expecting the nursery to pay all / some of the cost? I don't want to sour relations between us. Or should I just acknowledge it as a mistake and let it lie? What is reasonable?

Oh this happened to me too on a couple of occasions. Sometimes they get mixed up with other people's nappies, sometimes they disappear without a trace. Unfortunately, if it can't be found, you have to write it off.

I now have a system:

-All nappies used for nursery have sewn in name labels
-I put the same number of nappies in every day
-I count the nappies in the bag before I leave nursery at the end of the day.

-All my nappies are 2nd hand and cheap. There is no way I would trust nursery with (or spend) £17.50 on a nappy.

most nurseries have a policy that says they accept no responsibility for lost property and request that you label all items

But, I see nothing wrong with you letting them know you are not happy with the loss of this nappy and you do not expect it to happen again.

TBH, I doubt that the nursery nurses are aware that the nappies are so expensive. I wasn't. They will just see it as a nappy on the same lines as a disposable.

I would let them know how much they cost and you are not happy with them being misplaced, i'm sure they will take more care. Also, i'm sure you do, but make sure everything is labelled. Even if it means big black permanent marker.

Thanks for that - pretty much in line with what I thought. They're birth to potty nappies so I guess a bit more expensive. I did buy some of them 2nd hand/seconds but think they still cost about £14-15. I'm quite sure the girls have no clue that's how much they are.
Thanks