Am I wrong to expect nursery to respect our wishes re daytine sleep?

[totallytired]

Please excuse the name but I have changed from my usual one!

We are having a problem with our nursery and my dd's napping. She is 2 and a half and a couple of months ago, she stopped napping in the day, bar a 20 min power nap here and there, usually when out in the car. She's never been a big sleeper, but we found that cutting out the nap, she slept better during the night and woke up at a less anti-social hour in the morning.
Nursery were reluctant to drop the sleep as they said she was very young but we compromised on a catch up sleep twice a week, on specified days. We would have preferred that she had a power nap more often but they will not wake them from naps. The problem is that the days she naps, she is a generally very hard work to get to bed and frequently wakes earlier.
Should I have a word with the nursery manager as we seem to be hitting a brick wall with her keyworker or sholud I just accept their way of doing things? I and she loves the nursery other than this - they're great at many things but I feel really frustrated by this.

Sorry for my essay! I would be interested to know what others would do.

I think they should try and drive her through tbh. Thats cwhat ds's nursery did. occasionally he did fall asleep and they wouldn't wake him but in general they tried to keep him awake.

Thanks, jrsqueak - sorry, I had started two threads and have been on the other one! I am going to ask if they can keep her going. thanks again.

haven't seen the other thread - but my DS1 stopped his day time naps at 18 months, if a nursery worker had told me 1yr later that he was "very young" and should still have a nap I would NOT have been impressed.

I think if you've requested a power nap on x,y,z days and that she should be woken up they should damn well do it! It's not like you're demanding that she has milk or nappy changes at exact times (which of course can be difficult to accommodate precisely in a nursery environment) you're just asking if on the days she does have a sleep if she can be woken after a short time.

Thanks FAQ (the other thread was exactly the same, my PC did it twice!). I now feel that I would not be creating an unnecessary fuss and shall speak to them again about it.