Have left ds at nursery for first time today............need reassurance :(

[TartanPussyCat]

After a couple of days last week where I stayed with him, today is the first time I have properly left him there. It's a lovely place with fab staff but he was SO distressed.... He's 19mo. Will he find it harder to adjust because he's that bit older?

They said they would ring me to collect him if he really wouldn't settle.... I am perched by the phone expecting it to ring any second! Any nice nursery stories would be welcome right now....

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ring them to put your mind at rest.

i'm a childminder and have also worked in nurseries and i'm sure he settled quickly and is now happily playing.

the nursery wont mind you ringing and then you can settle and not worry

x

ah ring them. my dd started nursery in sept. she was very upset for the first week (she goes 3 days). i used to ring them after a little while and again after lunch just to make sure she was ok. i did this for the first fortnight.
the first week she was very upset at being left, the second week she was sad but not distraught now she gives me a kiss shouts bye and is gone even wants to go on her days off
he will be fine i'm sure

oh and my dd is the child that most of the family have never stayed with alone as she has always been so clingy and utterly distraught if i as much as put my shoes on, but she loves nursery

In all honesty, today he'll probably be fine.

He might not be over the next couple of days as that is when it kicks in that this isn't just a one-day thing. But he will be fine...and soon you'll find (like I did) that he complains at the weekend!

Take it easy on yourself today as well, and do something really treaty for both of you when you pick him up.

But, yes, ring them, for your own piece of mind, because they won't actually ring you if he's "just" crying.

Thanks all, posts much appreciated!

I am trying to ring them but it's engaged - hope they're not trying to ring me... argh

Ok just picked him up (was just doing morning session today) and he settled not too badly, but intermittently let out a big cry whenever he 'remembered' what was going on. Sobbed his little heart out as soon as he saw me bless him...

An improvement on Friday's attempt at least! He looks dreadful though, full of the cold with big puffy eyelids.

Just put him up to bed, he was absolutely exhausted. Doing another morning session tomorrow!

tartan, this is still the settling in period. My nursery gave ds (11 months) 8 weeks to settle into ft nursery, starting from an hour long session with me present to 5 hours at a stretch with me gone and a few times a week. He officially started with no problems at all. I only had to go back once.

So long as the ladies are giving your ds extra attention and cuddles, he will come round. I promise. I did this with 2 dcs. It is now ds' second home.

It's really enouraging to hear everyone's positive stories - thanks for the kind words.

He is only going to be at nursery for 1.5 days, that is Tuesday mornings and all day Fidays (0830-1730) so he will prob take even longer to settle in. I am dreading him going for the whole day as he gets sooo tired by 5pm, even at home just pottering. And he's been such a good sleeper at nights so far, I am worried about the stress of it mucking up his sleep patterns... I know I am being precious but it all still feels a bit, well, weirdly wrong to be leaving him.

PFB syndrome good and proper

your bound to feel like this, but it will get easier. all those little kinks, sleep times etc, will soon iron out.
ime nurseries are very good at working with you with concerns eg sleep problems if they come up