DS v clingy with me after starting nursery this year

[Annya]

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My 22-month-old son started nursery a few weeks ago. He has done 3 weeks of "adaptation" and has now started properly, alternating 3 and a half days one week, 2 short days the following week (I work odd hours). He cries when I leave him but the staff say during the day if he cries it is "shouting rather than crying" and there are no tears. He is slowly beginning to play more, eat and sleep there. I am happy with the nursery and like the staff. At home though he is very clingy with me, even when his daddy is there. DP has looked after DS a lot by himself so they are/were very close. What's going on? Is he worried I am gonna leave him or is he cross with me and manipulating my sense of guilt (v successfully)?

I think he misses you and doesn't want you to leave him so is staying by your side to keep an eye on you.

My ds is the same (21mo) and has been at nursery since he was 11mo!! Dh and him are great when they are alone together but when I am there he doesn't want anyone else.

It is hard, and I find it sad to think he misses me, of course he would rather be at home with mummy. But if I don't work, we don't eat, or have a house etc etc so we all just have to get on with it.

But it does suck.

Yes, he misses you and wants to make sure you are still "his".
Plus, I found that they go through a very clingy stage at your ds's age.
At that age dd would strap herself to my legs every single night while I tried to cook dinner, ignoring dh and her older brother.

This is normal My dd started nursery lat march and all of a sudden wouldnt let me leave room go to toilet leave her with her gran basically leave her in general i spoke to hv she says this is very comman with 2yr olds and leaving there parents to go to a strange place on there own but shes fine now only lasted about 6 months the clingyness

Cheers everyone. Six months.... !!!! Oh well. It's just so hard when he used to be so happy with either of us. I know its making DP sad and annoyed too. Funnily enough he had one day when he was ill last year when it was the other way round and I couldn't do anything right and it was daddy, daddy all the time. Have to say it was v restful! But wouldn't like it all the time.