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ds really struggling with 'structured' activities at nursery

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vannah · 22/01/2009 21:24

any tips please?

Its only his second day, he is 3 and 3 months, he was the same at toddler groups. Loves to play with the toys but really hates the bits where you sit down/circle time/lining up etc...
yesterday was his first day, and it was great. He has always been a clingy child but he as we were asked to come 'late' we missed the initial carpet session. He got straight to play and was ecstatic.

Today however, we went on time, there was a 15 minute settling in period on the carpet followed by a 25 minute ridiculour yoga session led by a mother who runs the local baby yoga group. He refused to join in. Most of the 35 kids looked bored and were constantly being told to 'join in' or sit still etc.

Then in the afternoon they were all taken upstairs to the music room for a music lesson with some shouty man who constantly told them all off for putting the beaters in their mouths, taking notes off the xylophones etc. They are 3 or 4, not 6!

Anyway, point is that DS was in floods of tears and just found the whole thing distressing and of course doesnt want to go back.

Am I wrong to think nurseries should be less structured?
And if I complain this being only the second day what impression will I give? Trying to be polite about it all...

thankyou

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bambinox2 · 22/01/2009 22:18

This seems very structured! Under the EYFS the children should be the ones who show what they want to do and the staff to take from this and make a structured activity around the childs interests. Were you aware of these extra activities when you looked at the nursery? Do all the children have to join in? Is there not a member of staff who offers an alternative activity? 25 minutes of Yoga seems a little too much for 3 year olds.
I don't think you should complain but maybe talk to his keyworker about your concerns from what you observed and see how they make it more flexible for children not wanting to join in.

Twims · 22/01/2009 22:20

Would say that it is a little to much at that age (am a nursery nurse by trade) but maybe it's a one off - would hold off and see what happens next time

CARAVICASPORTS · 23/01/2009 11:24

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ComeOVeneer · 23/01/2009 11:26

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juneybean · 25/01/2009 00:55

Sounds ridiculous and very against EYFS. I would see how it goes... it should not be so structured.

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Foxy800 · 25/01/2009 09:33

I am a nursery nurse and work in day care, where we do a few structured activities at the request of the paretns but thus sounds very very structured to me.

vannah · 27/01/2009 21:47

thankyou all for these replies, I had forgotten I posted this.
Well I politely spoke to the nursery teacher and we decided for him to opt out of the 2 days where such activities are going on, so he is only doing 3 days a week which is fine by me. Will up it when more settled but still think its ridiculous and over the top, and no-I dont think its a one off.
The carpet sessions are DEFinately longer than ten minutes. Poor kids..

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