What do you think?

[bookswapper]

My son had his second day at nursery today.
He cried half way through the session and the staff told him they would go and phone mummy.
Of course they didn't.
My son apparently calmed down and "forgot" about it and played on happily enough.
But I am a bit - I dont like them telling him they will do things and then not following through.

I never lie to him at home.

Should I speak to them about my concerns and my wishes or is this early days?

I see your point, but I think they may think you're a little intense if you complain about that at this point.
If he's happy and they care for and about him then you might have to accept they do things differently to you.

I'm a normal non liar to children, but I think that in this case it was well justified, and not noticable to him. They also told you that you did it, and I imagine that they know that just reminding the child that mummy is in contact with the nursery comforts them, so use it when necessary.

They will do things differently to you, and tbh, would not say anything about this

I would leave it, if this is an isolated incident. They did lie, but it wasnt a lie that made any difference to what actually happened, as they said they would phone you, not that they would phone you to come and collect him, so the end result for your son was the same.
That isnt to say I approve of lying to children, and I wouldnt have said what they said, but as lies go, it was very minor.

I think it;s early days - not sure how old your DS is but if he was still upset and wanting to speak to you on the phone, I'm sure they would've followed through and rung you.

I think it was a rather badly thought out diversion tactic on their part.... and I agree that the comfort aspect of him knowing the nursery staff were in contact with you would have helped.

thanks to everyone who replied

he's three and has just left a truly awful old fashioned playgroup for his first taste of school nursery

I was in when the teacher told me as I had high hopes of the (supposedly) properly trained staff

I agree it is early days...and it would do no good to go in all guns blazing I agree

(the less said of the hula hoops given as a snack the better!)