What would you think if you saw this?

[tattycoram]

I started settling my ds into nursery yesterday (he is nearly two).

Today, I was with them when they were eating their lunch. One little boy got down from the table and started wandering around. They were supposed to stay sitting down while they were each given a cup of water. One of the nursery staff said - if you don't sit down I'll take your blankie away. He didn't sit down, she put his blankie on a high up shelf and he lay on the floor crying inconsolably with no one paying him any attention. Two minutes later all the children had got up and he didn't need to be sitting down anyway. Another member of staff wandered in and gave him his blanket back

It just seemed so cruel to me.

What would you do/think in that situation?

I was really shaken and burst into tears when I left, I just couldn't bear to think of my ds being treated like that.

Complain to the manager immediatly, they dont know these things unless someone tells them. That is absolutly disgusting.

I've been thinking about this all afternoon and I know that is the right thing to do. I'm worried though that all the staff in the room will know that I complained and that it will affect their treatment of my DS. However, I think I'm going to keep looking for other nurseries. That one incident really shook me

tatty want area are u in maybe someone could recommend u a nursery!

keep looking for nurseries but make sure you tell this nursery why you won't be sending your child there. If that is how they behave when parents are there imagine what it must be like when they are not being watched.

pickcherries, I've looked at every nursery in the area and we're on the waiting lists for all the good ones. This one has a very good reputation and I know people who have beeen very happy with it. What bothers me the most is that DH and I liked it when we looked round, the two managers are fantastic, everyone seemed very happy. So how on earth can you tell?

even good nurseries have crap nursery nurses in them, you can't tell sometimes.

ooh hallo purepurple, I'm glad you're up.
Can I ask you, what's the best way of approaching this with the manager? DS is going to have to stay there for a while while we find somewhere else and I am worried that the staff will know that I have complained and will somehow take it out on him.

sorry for the delay! I would say can I have a quiet word with you about someting delicate. And just tell her your concerns. To be honest, we don't always get it right at nurseries, that's why it is important to be able to have frank and open discussions with the staff there. You never know, you may find that you are happy with the nursery. I would hope that the staff didn't take out their grievances on your child, which would be very unprofessional.Once the staff know that you have complained they will be very wary of upsetting you again! Good luck! BTW I am more than used to parents questioning me, happens all the time, I expect it and it doesn't affect the way I treat the children. All parents are different as are children and the skill is in finding the balance and caring for their child in a manner that everyone approves of. Not always easy when everyone has different expectations and methods.

Hi, don't worry, thanks for replying. I did speak to the managers and they were horrified and said please please let them know if anything else like that happens, but at the same time they seemd a bit like oh no not again, as if it wasn't really a surprise, so I wasn't massively reassured. Anyway, I think we've found another nursery, so fingers crossed. I've found this incredibly stressful.