bruises

[Sarazinha]

My 9 month old girl has been settling at nursery for the last 2 weeks. I noticed that her nappy change became difficult. She cries desperately as soon as I lay her down on the changing table. Yesterday evening I notice bruises on her legs. 4 fingers and thumb on each leg from someone trying to restrain her. I always ask at the end of the day how she was. No one told me that anything particularly wrong occur that day. I am so worried. I wonder what's going on and how shall I deal with this situation. I know that my DD is not the easiest of babies, but bruises on her legs? Advice anyone? Does anyone was in this situation?

Take her out of there. Sorry, but you should get an accident report form the nursery if there's an accidents or bumps (let alone bruises). Don't consider that because she is not and easy baby as any kind of excuse. Sad that you see that. I would report it to the nursery, they need to know.

Please consider changing her by using distractions for a while. Stickers. Some MNers put on sunglasses, so the babies see a reflection. Put a silly hat on, or rattle a spare set of keys. Anything. Poor little thing.

We are going on Monday to get an explanation. Depending of the outcome we will make a decision. Taking her out of there is "easier said than done" as we both work full time and with the london cost of living I can not afford to stay at home. Another thing is that they keep on telling me she's teething and that's why she's distressed but this is the second weekend at home with us and she's not distressed at all. Didn't need any dentinox or calpol yet. I don't think they can handle her at nursery. I am so worried, and sad, and distressed and angry.

Really sorry to hear. I think you are doing the right thing: to go there and talk to them about the incident. I think the idea is to be a team, so you can see if they are also adjusting to a new baby or if this is just not the right match or a bad nursery. DS had to learn new nappy changing rules and they were holding him down, but: it was with my explicit knowledge and I had no bad feelings at all. I think this is what it really boils down to: to gut feeling if this is the right place. Good luck - the first week were very hard for me, but a few month later it feels it was the right thing to do.

If needs be you can get emergency or temporary childcare through agencies or posting on www.gumtree.com or www.nannyjob.co.uk, not always cheap but possibly better than leaving your child somewhere you don't think she is safe, well looked after or happy.

Just an idea, good luck

Thank you for your advice AngelNanny. When we approached the nursery they were super concerned, chocked and extremely apologetic. They were very professional tried to deal with the situation by talking to staff individually, took noticed of our concerns in writing and gave me a daily detailed full report of how DD was getting on from then on when I picked her up at the end of the day. I noticed immediately that her nappy changing was calmer although things like sleeping and eating at the nursery took more than a month to be normal. This Wednesday the staff was very happy telling me that DD laughed for the first time with them! I am now relieved and quite happy with the way that the nursery dealt with the situation. Thank you all for your concern and advice. Happy new year!

Im so glad you approached the nursery and everything worked out ok.

Must have been lovely to hear she laughed at nursery for first time.

Good Luck in future