OK - beat me now - I have said something v stupid........

[BitTiredNow]

Dropped off dc3 (15 months)in nursery yesterday to find they had combined rooms to make up staff numbers and she was in a group of 3 children which included a 3 yo who is well known as a biter and several of the children there (including my other 2 dcs) have scars to prove it. Now I know noone makes their child a biter, and my dc2 was one himself, but for some unknown reason I said (trying to be funny, I guess) in a jokey voice to the child ' now don't you bite dd, or I might have to bite you back'... yes I know, how stupid, was reported to the manager who reported me to her manager and if I eer do anything wrong again I will lose my child care.... go on, slap me now......

really? I was expecting a public flagellation by you all!!!!

we live in a small community where I have seen the child bite not only my children but others, not always in a nursery setting. Riven, I think we are cut from the same cloth - sometimes I speak before I think of the consequences. Still - I can take the criticism - wouldn't have posted if i couldn't. As to the question, would I have minded if someone else had said that, tbh, when ds2 was going through it, I apprecriated anyone else telling him it was out of order, and if I knew it was someone like me, I probably wouldn't have worried - maybe that exposes more of my character flaws than anything else.

I would have said something very similar..
If the child in question is a prolific biter were the nursery as quick to deal with the child and its parents?

Sounds like a desperate mother to me! Can't believe you were reported. Doesn't anyone have a sense of humour these days?

well it wasn't a brilliant idea
but i would have thought a stern look from the carer would have been sufficient

Of course they had to say something! What if he's gone home and said "a lady said she'll hurt me".

And the parents came racing in with panic only to be told "oh - it was a joke so we ignored it".

I am just as clumsy as you btw - so feel your pain

Who reported you? The mother of the biter?
Yes, it was a silly thing thing to say and you already know that, but I think over-reaction (assuming it was the first time you threatened a child in the village)

I am forever saying the wrong thing. Wish you could "preview" in RL.

sounds like it was the staff - they have a procedure to follow

Could they not tell it was a bad joke?! OK I aint gonna award you the perrier award...... but if I'd been there I wouldn't have thought you were actually going to do any biting.

Over reaction on their part!

If it makes you feel any better, I kept bumping int o the same woman over and over again in town, and I said to her "stop following me or I'm going to take out an injunction against you" . I don't know what posessed me. It could have been funny if somebody else had said it. But she just looked at me like I was reallly quite odd. Felt a muppet. Get a cringy shiver when I think about it. HOpe she's not reading this.

Haha I'd have just laughed if I was the NN

thanks for the support - no, it wasn't the mother who reported me, but the carer. Yes, I will try to think before I speak in the future.... guess that's me on my best behaviour from now on - best go and buy lots of apples for monday......