Nativity Costume

[Tobis]

I just got back from my son’s first ever nativity play and I am fuming and close to shedding tears. As I got to nursery room, I met him crying from afar, i muttered in whispers to him to ask him what was wrong and he told whispered back and said “costume”.

out of 21 children, he is the only one without a costume, not because we can’t afford it or we didn’t care to buy but because no one told us anything. I asked around from the other parents in the room and they all said they were told before hand what role their child was playing and that they needed costume.

he just sat there, sobbing, without a costume while every other child had one. After the play, I asked him what happened, he told me he asked his carer for one and they didn’t give him, bursted into tears and he had to start apologizing to me that he was sorry thinking he did something wrong. This is the worst feeling ever, to think he was looking forward to it, and I know this is the the first of many but nothing hurts as much as seeing them like he wasn’t part of his peers.

I don’t know what to do, I feel like a terrible parent, anyone has ever been in such situation before? What did you do?

Do you read all the newsletters etc? If every other parent knew about it, it sounds like you've dropped the ball somewhere. Never mind, it's done with now.

I appreciate it is upsetting seeing your child unhappy but I agree with the previous poster if everyone else knew then it's much more likely that you've missed a memo or they told someone else who collected, his dad perhaps, about the costume and they have not passed on the message?

I would just focus on how well he did in the play and double check all your contact info is up to date. He will have forgotten all about it in a few days.

Ask a friendly parent how they knew?

I almost miss something every single week because the important notices go out in the same places as the daily updates. DD is only in nursery 2 mornings a week so I don't naturally check up on the nurseries posts of what the kids are doing when she isn't there.

It's so sad for your wee boy though - just give lots of reassurance and love and he'll no doubt forget it in a few days.