Anyone know of a Nursery that does not teach Gender Stuff - No 'Non Binary Staff"?

[SeamstressBethany]

Hi all.

I am struggling to find a nursery for my 1 1/2 year old that doesn't teach gender stuff. I keep meeting 'they/them' staff every time I visit. I am a gender critical feminist and do not want my child exposed to it.

Does anyone know of a nursery that doesn't push this stuff. I am based in Cardiff.

My priority number 1 is that he is safe. It matters because the truth is important.

Sexual orientation is and gender reassignment is although my understanding is that means you can’t for example treat a trans woman worse than a man but non binary isn’t either of those things

I thought there were 100s of genders, but only two sexes.

I am a gender-critical feminist.

You are way off base to think this is something to base your nursery choice on.

It is.

We chose (for this and other reasons) a nursery attached to a Catholic school as the Church's position, comes from the bible e.g "Male and female He created them," and views sex as binary and tied to biological sex at birth, not gender identity. The school (and nursery policy) explicitly states that expressing a different gender identity does not change a child's sex and includes a commitment to preventing bullying and harassment related to gender non-conformity.

And yes I am aware that there are other big issues with Catholic schools but being GC this was important to us.

haha

That’s an good shout! Thanks for your comment. Well done you for sticking to your principles

Nursery did talk about Father Christmas with no mention of him being fictitious. That’s an obvious lie, will you be able to find a nursery that doesn’t do that? They also celebrated many different religions, none of which have been proven or are scientifically sound. I think the latter is part of the curriculum though so not sure how you can ensure your child isn’t being lied to in nursery?

Sure you do make a good point there. Perhaps I will speak to turn on binary staff and ask if my toddler can call them just by their names instead

All nursery children do call the teachers by their names?! What else would they call them?

@Complet The OP is worried about their child referring to members of staff as they or them as opposed to him.

Perhaps you would be better keeping your child at home, staying secluded from the outside world and going totally off grid. That way you can teach them your ‘truth’ and prevent them from possibly meeting people who don’t align with your beliefs.

cheers for the chuckle

But the children just call them by their names?! My child would never say ‘they cooked with us today’, it would always be ‘Anita cooked with us today’. You wouldn’t say she, he, or they whilst you are in that person’s company anyway.

The OP was concerned about lying and there is no need to lie (even though the OP probably tells them lies at that age anyway). Children rarely use she/he/they to talk about someone at they age, and if they do they don’t always get it right - mine called everyone ‘he’ for months!

They use he/she all the time. "He took my bag, she knocked over my tower," and one memorable occasion a child complained to me "He hit me back!".

Think about a child called Oscar taking another child's toy car and that child talking to staff member Graham:

"Graham! Oscar took my car and then Oscar put it up Oscar's jumper and now Oscar won't give it back!"

That sound likely? How about:

"Graham, Oscar took my car, then he put it up his jumper and now he won't give it back."

No child talks like you suggest.

I don’t think you could guarantee anywhere with no non binary staff because they could employ them after starting nursery?

home schooling?