Poo accidents at nursery

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Sorry for a poo thread 😂 i can't believe I'm having to write this!
So DS has been potty training the past few months and has been doing well but still has the occasional accident especially for number 2s.
Recently, when he has a poo accident at nursery they leave the poo still in his pants and tie it all up in a nappy bag inside his nursery bag. So when i get home and open his bag it absolutely stinks (especially in this heat when it's been sat there since the morning). And there are also his clean clothes in the bag which then also stink and have to be washed. One time there was a poo down his trousers leg which i luckily noticed before i threw it in the washing machine. When i open the bags and take the clothes out I've had pieces of poo fall out and roll all over the kitchen floor which i then have to pick up.

Is this normal for nurseries to leave poo and send it home in the bag? I don't expect the nursery staff to clean all the poo off his pants obviously, but if it's solid surely it takes two seconds to flick it into the toilet instead packing it up into a nappy bag?!
I'm happy to be told I'm being unreasonable if this is just standard for nursery.

We kind of had this sometimes. It used to drive me mad how they would send home to us a fully formed, easily disposable turd!!

@SpinningTops glad it's not just me then! I really wasn't expecting it when it first happened 😂

We use washable nappies and we do get the poos sent home but I think if they're actual turds then they do just tip them into the bin rather than wrapping up the whole thing. Your nursery may be cleaning up the poo accidents in the nappy changing area rather than in the toilets, so it might not be as easy as just tipping them into the loo. However, it is pretty disgusting to put them straight into the child's bag with their clean clothes. Our nursery keeps the plastic bags of wet and soiled clothes separately, in the toilets, and gets them out to hand to the parents at pickup.

That's disgusting. I'd raise it and provide a second bag that can be sealed off from an odours perspective for accidents.

We had this happen sometimes during potty training, it depended on the staff member who had changed dd

sometimes they use the nappy change area where there’s only a nappy bin, bags and wipes. I think that’s when they don’t just flush it down the loo

Yanbu - solid poo should be flushed. I wonder if this is a particular member of staff at the nursery with you saying its a more recent issue - maybe a less experienced team member. I'd mention it to a senior member of staff

We potty trained last week and the first day back at nursery DS had several poo accidents. I was informed on collecting him that a couple of pairs of pants had gone in the bin as they were too dirty to be bagged up and sent home. I think that’s your solution here, I have been sent some back where they weren’t totally soiled and that’s fine so know the staff are being reasonable about this.

Sorry but this reminds me of my extremely OCD sister and my niece, who was sent home from nursery with a bag of clothes after an accident, my sister didn't think twice and just chucked them into hernew expensive machine.

We were sat at the kitchen table chatting over a cuppa when suddenly my niece points to the machine and says look there's a poop 🤣
Sure enough, a little nugget was stuck in the rubber door seal! It migrated during the wash and was dragged around the door seal and she was going spare haha. When the spin cycle started it disappeared and it was the funniest thing ever watching her fish out each item at the end, trying to locate the stray turd, which eventually popped out wrapped up in a pair of joggers, smelling of persil 😂😂

Needless to say the whole lot went straight back on a boil wash 🤣

@FedupMum2024 omg that made me laugh 😂

As a nanny my potty training policy is poo pants get binned, I don’t care to bag them up and carry them around with me all day. When I worked in a nursery, the toilets weren’t in the main room, and no one wanted to have to extract lumps of poo off of pants to have them sitting in the nappy bin particularly so yes sometimes the pants would get wrapped as they were and sent home. I know that’s totally grim.

Best bet is buy a lot of the cheapest pants possible as I advise my nanny employers to do whilst training, and prepare for them to be disposed of, but do make sure this is clearly communicated to the nursery.

This is so funny 🤣

Our nursery does this. It makes me heave but I’ve learnt by now to check carefully before I put things into a bucket to soak. I do sometimes chuck pants straight in the bin if it’s going to be really disgusting to clean. It feels very wasteful but then I guess nappies are too.

As a nursery worker I’ll never understand why parents want to keep pants that have been soiled. No way would I be putting that in my washing machine. Request they throw it away instead. Problem solved. Where it is a whole poo or not it is going to stink. We ain’t got time to be scrapping poo from pants.

Do you understand how a washing machine works?

If it's a whole solid poo then ideally they'd tip what they can down the loo, but if it's all squished on the pants they can't scrape or rinse them.

Do you really want the soiled pants back?

Yes I do. Do you? Are you aware of how dirt and grime builds up inside. The bits you can’t clean. As I said I’ll never put poo in there. It’s disgusting! Some people have no concept of hygiene.

I used to have poo liners in Terry nappies they were like wet wipes but dry that way you didn't have to scrape towelling. Would that be a solution if they still exist

I knew this thread would be about the nursery gift of the poop still in the pants. I was amazed the 1st time I was sent one. It went down the loo and the pants in the outside bin. I thought Sharon Osborne managed bands not nurseries.

Sounds like your son is having lots of poo accidents, I think nurseries prefer when children are fully potty trained only having rare accidents.

Is he able to communicate the need to go to the toilet?

DH and I absolutely would want any soiled pants in the bin and not to be returned to us!

Our nursery get rid of the poo. They occasionally tell us the underwear wasn’t salvageable and just bin the lot, which I’m perfectly happy with given it’s not every time.

It smells of poo once you put poo through! I then have to di a boil service wash on it but still, it is gross.

it’s funny because some parents are annoyed with me when I say I’ve had to put pants straight in the bin, but no one seems to mind multiple shitty nappies a day in the bin 🤷🏻‍♀️

Exactly my thoughts I just think it’s disgusting. Buy cheap pants and then throw them. Especially as well it’s not like they’re getting washed straight away.