My son is almost 4 and at preschool, he has been at the same nursery/preschool since he was 1. He has always been quite shy and sensitive but is very sociable once he warms up and with his friends/family. Occasionally if he’s having a meltdown he might do this with us where he won’t communicate what he needs until he’s calmed down. It’s not a regular thing but we just figured it was normal behaviour for his age.
nursery have mentioned it before at his parents evening but were very much like ‘not concerned, as he gets more confident I’m sure he’ll get better at saying what he needs’ etc.
today at pick up the staff member said he’d had a really good day etc, but then apparently at one point in the day was just stood staring and wouldn’t say what was wrong, eventually he said his feet were wet. And then she told him he needs to ‘use his words’ next time. I don’t know if she was insinuating I should be concerned about this? Or that it’s abnormal?
would you say this is concerning behaviour? If a nursery worker was concerned would they say ‘this is unusual’ or ‘I am concerned’?
I should say he has a really good vocabulary and is very articulate normally, I assume in this instance he was overstimulated/upset and that’s why he wasn’t speaking?