I'm not sure how best to approach this so looking for some sage advice. Sorry for long post but trying to give all the context.
My wee boy is in his settling in period at nursery, and has been doing well gradually building up the time and getting used to the new environment. He's 3 and has only ever been looked after by me or family on the days I work. We regularly go to playgroups and classes before he started nursery, but he is still quite reserved around other kids. Really bright and articulate for his age so can seem older, but not very confident with peers, he's still learning. So I expect the busy nursery with the noise and lots of other children to come with some challenges, but I think it's important to have that experience to build social skills independently of me.
Anyway, I collected him today and he was happy, and absolutely filthy.
He was quite red on his cheeks, I assumed from running around the garden.
We went inside and his stuff wasn't in his little cubby and the staff weren't sure where it was. After some searching they found it.
We head off home. I notice he smells of suncream, but not the one I put into the nursery (I deliberately use unscented products because he has mild eczema and perfumes irritate his skin)
In the car home I realised his water bottle is still full, I offer him a drink and he downs the lot! He tells me he hasn't drunk all day. I had assumed they'd just refilled the bottle. I ask did he have a cup of water or milk at lunch, he tells me he got one but didn't drink it.
Then later he tells me that a boy sprayed him with suncream, I asked if it was an adult and he told me it was a kid and the lady (staff member) will need to tell him off.
I tried not to overly probe or lead him so let him tell me in his own time and worse and he described the boy in detail. He told me a staff member put cream on my son before he played outside.
So is it that noone could find his bag so used whatever cream was to hand, and thought nothing of it and a child also sprayed him with cream and noone thought to mention it?
Did staff use his own cream and a kid sprayed him with something different and no staff saw it?
And for the water, I'm quite sure it's been offered a drink but do they not check if a kid hasn't drunk it and offer again or something to drink out with meal times? Surely toddlers should get a drink of water between lunch and hometime?
I know he definitely did pee at nursery because he told me a staff member helped him change his pants because they were wet. And his wet things were in the bag.
The handover was "great day seems to be settling in nicely, happy with playing alongside other kids, but we'll work up to him getting more involved as time goes on". And he seems quite happy about nursery (teary goodbyes in the morning but coping and getting less distressed by drop off as the days go on).
I appreciate staff won't report the minutiae of the day but surely wet pants, suncream being sprayed by another kid, and not eating or drinking are things you'd mention?