Bite Handling?

[sparklingsummer]

Hello,

Just wondered if anyone can offer any guidance; my DS (3) was bitten at nursery but it happened in an area off camera so despite another child and my son telling the worker what happened they have no ‘real’ evidence and therefore nothing has been said to the potential biters parent. Is this correct handling? I’m not sure how I feel about its handling but feel sad for my DS given the giant bite mark on his face.

I have been in your shoes. My son was also bitten on his face and was bitten a few times by this same child. He was a repeat offender with other kids too! The nursery tried their best monitoring the offender but in the end his behaviour was too challenging so he was asked to leave by the nursery.
At my childminders, my son was also biten by a girl but they noticed it was an escalation of fighting over the same toys so the childminder avoided that. The girl wasn’t allowed to bring any of her own toys to the childminder any more as she got angry when kids played with them.
In summary, the nursery and childminder both took the situation seriously and monitored the children more closely to understand what triggered it.

Speaking to the potential biter's parents isn't going to be particularly effective anyway, they can't do much as they're not there.
The nursery will just need to keep more of an eye on the biter, see if there's a pattern or trigger.

I'm a bit surprised they wouldn't mention it if both the biter and the bitee agree on what happened, but I also agree that I would focus on what the nursery will do themselves to try to prevent a repeat, particularly if the suspected biter has done it before (relatively recently).

Most parents would want to know and to reinforce the message that we don't bite, but at that age, delayed consequences aren't likely to be effective, so it's mostly down to nursery.