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Kid attacking mine. What should nursery manager be doing?

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sellotape12 · 10/07/2025 21:42

I’m bit tired of my son coming home from his preschool room and saying that a certain kid hits him, bit him or kicked him. They are now almost 3.5 and it’s been going on since they were two. I thought it would sort itself out because I know that age 2 is wild, but here we are a year and a half later.

The kid is extremely physical and big for his age and I think what I’m struggling with is the parents don’t believe in discipline. So every time he does it to my son, they just roll their eyes and use his name in a firm voice. On really bad occasions I’ve had to say “hey Bob no! You’re hurting Clive”. And I will snatch my son away.

So I was going to ask the Nursery about it. But I’ve asked them before and they just shrug and say that they haven’t seen anything in the room. I feel like I’m being gaslit. I don’t know how to manage it because I’m obviously not there at the nursery when it’s happening, but I’ve seen it happen at the weekend and on the walk home. The other kid sometimes puts his hands around my son’s neck. He thinks it’s play – it’s like he doesn’t know his own physicality. But I’m not sure what to do about the Nursery. They seems a bit blasé.
PS no my son is not really called Clive, don’t worry

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legoplaybook · 10/07/2025 21:53

Is your son telling the nursery staff when it happens?
If there was a bite, is there a mark?
Could you encourage your son to say loudly 'STOP I don't like that'?

whynotmereally · 10/07/2025 21:55

I’d request a meeting with the manager. Make a list of when things happed idesly with dates and complain. Ask how the manager intends to manage it going forward
if it continues a new nursery is all u can do

DropZone5PleaseBen · 10/07/2025 22:31

Tell your son to hit back twice as hard. Never hit first but smack him right back. Little shite with shite parents!

sellotape12 · 11/07/2025 11:50

Absolutely not going to teach him to fight back. I have emailed the nursery manager again. It’s a safeguarding issue.

OP posts:
XelaM · 11/07/2025 11:54

sellotape12 · 11/07/2025 11:50

Absolutely not going to teach him to fight back. I have emailed the nursery manager again. It’s a safeguarding issue.

Why not? Fighting back is a good way to prevent bullying at school later on

DropZone5PleaseBen · 11/07/2025 14:21

sellotape12 · 11/07/2025 11:50

Absolutely not going to teach him to fight back. I have emailed the nursery manager again. It’s a safeguarding issue.

Well dont moan if your child gets picked on if you're not allowing them to stand up for themselves or hit back..

the child will get to the age where they will hit back anyway. You don't want your child to be known as the school pansy.

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