Hello,
I'm a first-time mum of a 17.5 month old, and I attended a church toddler group for the first time. Most of the parents are lovely, and the children played (mainly with the toys than each other). My son is an active child and very interested in things. Anytime he took a toy off a child, I'd step in and say "that's so-and-so's for the moment let's look at something else, or let's try to play together". The parents of those children were very chill.
Another child was walking with a walker (not needing it for support) and the mums with her and my son tried to take the toy. More so, he puts his on it. Before I could say anything, the lady said to my son "It's Poppy's turn right now and take his hand off and said you have to wait". My body froze to say something, and I was quite annoyed because she didn't say it in the most friendly manner. 10 seconds later this kid is done with the toy and my son goes to get it and the mum goes well done for waiting. And made zero eye contact with me. Now there was her plus another woman who were not so warm and welcoming in general. Even when we left, she looked at me as she was looking back and didn't even smile.
Now my natural instinct would be to say something. My body froze. However, was the mum OK with do that or should I have said "I've got it. Don't worry almost to say don't be rude." Or was the situation OK for the woman to say that? I ask because I'm a first-time mum, but I also don't want people to be rude in situations that involve my children.