Would you as a parent remove child from nursery

[Hyperquiet]

So my one year old has been attending nursery for 3 months.

In that time a couple of major issues have occured:

1. Bitten on the face by a child that has bitten other children before to the extent where the mark is still dark and visible after about 2 months and counting.

1. Slipped on a scarf at nursery and has fractured leg now.

Everyone around me is telling me to remove child because:
-These are 2 major issues in such a short space of time when my child hasn't been attending nursery long (only 3 months).

• The first issue is around the severity of the bite and lasting mark from a known biter rather than the child was bitten at all as I know that can happen.
• The second issue is because of what my child slipped on a scarf which are quite slippery, considering this is a baby room where one year olds are new to walking. I understand they use these for activities etc but it was that it was left on the floor.

Child is around 1.5 years old for context.

Particularly interested in views from other parents whose children attend nursery too as you'll have the perspective of a parent and end user.

Not really sure what to do for the best as they are accidents, preventable or not i don't know? I want to make the right decision but don't want to uproot one year old unless it is in their best interests as they are settled and the staff generally seem kind to the children.

However, my child will be transitioning to the 2 years plus room in a few months so if it is the best idea to move then that would probably be the best time frame.

Thank you for sharing

Have posted about scarf before as i am sure someone was telling me about a scarf accident recently.

The scarf is just a really unlucky fall. My two have slipped on scarves and other things dozens of times and never had any serious injury. She just seems to have landed very awkwardly. My friend’s DD fell at the park at 18mo and broke her leg just because she had an unfortunate landing. A bit of a freak accident.

But it doesn’t sound like you have faith in the nursery and if you’ve lost trust then you can’t really keep sending her.

To be honest, the scarf incident sounds like a very unfortunate accident. No matter how many staff there are, accidents will still happen. Unfortunately, you will always get ‘biters’ in nursery and, whilst you can watch for triggers, sometimes you’re just not quick enough to intervene.

the only reason I would remove a child in respect of these incidents is if the nursery handled them poorly.

Toddlers are light, low to the ground,and extremely bouncy. They're literally designed to fall and get right back up. I find it very difficult to believe one could break a leg from slipping on a scarf.

I also can't believe a child could damage another child so badly from a small bite. It would have to be a nasty sustained one. And if so, how did it go on for so long? Has your child seen a doctor?

If these did happen as the nursery said I think your child might need to see a doctor because they seem very physically fragile, and there might be an underlying health issue.

But if you haven't seen that kind of healing from injuries at home I'd get him out today and assume the nursery is full of shit.

you've asked for advice on this before and most people told you that the scarf incident is a typical accident that children have while running aground. If you're looking for validation to pull them out, it's not necessary. Do what you're comfortable with.

You didn't mention the biting in your other post but again, kids will be kids.

No odd healing from other injuries at home.

No I didnt show a doctor at the time as there was a very tiny dot of blood but not much broken skin.

Hi so if i thought it was unnecessary posting i wouldnt have posted

Also I am looking for advice, perspective rather than validation for an already made decision.

Finally, I am posting with the contect of the timeframe of starting nursery and both incidents in one post to provide a full picture.

Hope that answers your comments about my post.

sorry upset.

being upset is natural, but it doesn't change that DD was in one unfortunate situation & had on unfortunate slip.

You missed my point ENTIRELY

I'm NOT saying a bruised leg is the same as a broken one. I'm saying the accident is the same whatever the outcome.

It is the EVENT, not the outcome. that the nursery is/isn't responsible for.

Same with the bite, the outcome is that it has marked poor DD for a long time, but the EVENT is thatshe was bitten & that's what the nursery is.or isnt responsible for.

and personally, I don't see that they're reasons to move a child from a nursery. They are both risks even in your own care.

Well done! Much MUCH more succinct than I was able to be!!

If you’re not comfortable then you’re not comfortable. It’s not unreasonable.

But accidents can happen. My DD has bitten my other DD when I’ve been sitting right with them.
I broke my arm as a 2 yr old falling off a sofa. Toddlers slip, they fall. 99% of the time they get right back up. My DD fell down the stairs and didn’t end up with even a bruise, but when I fell off the sofa (and I guess when your son fell) I must have just landed funny and broken a bone. Doesn’t mean my mum was negligent.

But, if you’re not comfortable, then move him. You have to be happy that he’s safe each morning when you drop him off.

There are biters in every nursery I think

We removed our child from nursery at a similar age. Absolutely terrible place, multiple concerns.

If your child is otherwise happy and settled there, and you are happy with the way that they responded to these incidents, I would keep them there.

Thanks i think I will see how they respond.

Sorry I guess similar to other pp on this thread I didn't really see these as "severe". Yes it's awful your DC got hurt so badly, but unfortunately biting and accidents happen, same as bangs to the head. I wouldn't blame the nursery for this.
Hope she is okay anyway 💐

Both incidents sound like simple bad luck to me and things that can happen at any nursery.

To the person saying they don't believe slipping on a scarf on the floor would break a leg - I've come across a small child who broke their leg literally tripping over their own feet. Just walking along, caught their foot on their other foot, had an unfortunate twisting fall and fractured their leg. And another case where a toddler stumbled while walking next to a classmate sat on the floor, they trod on the sitting child's leg and broke it. For every few dozen the child fell down a flight of stairs and bounced cases, you get a freak accident that comes out startlingly bad.