After 18 months, my 2.5 year old STILL screams at nursery drop off

[MummyLyon]

As it says, just looking to see if anyone else has this issue and if they have advice on how to fix it?

My daughter is quite clingy to me, but generally is a lot of fun and a happy little person. She goes to nursery 2 days a week and every single time I drop her off she has a meltdown begging me not to go.

She really enjoys it once I’m gone and she’s settled down, but it’s so distressing watching how upset she gets. We’ve tried everything we can think of (giving her comfort toys, me going in for 5 minutes, super quick handovers at the door etc) but nothing works.

I feel awful but I don’t have an option as I need to work. It’s not like I can just remove her from nursery (and she does seem to actually enjoy it when she eventually settles).

I honestly don’t know if I’m looking for advice, reassurance or just to get it off my chest. But how upset she gets makes me feel like such a terrible mum for leaving her.

Mine still has days like that and I know he’s fine thirty seconds later because I can see him through the window. I don’t stress about it.

How do you know she really it enjoys it after you leave op?

I think knowing she's absolutely fine once she's there I'd take that as a win.

some children find leaving their parents a lot harder than others.

I’m relying reports/photographs sent by the nursery staff who are all lovely. I hope they’re being honest about it.

when I ask her when I pick her up she tells me she’s had fun and what she’s done so I think she’s okay.

Can you try having someone else drop her off, dad/granny?

Can you afford an extra day at nursery? Two days might just be taking her that bit longer to settle though I imagine it will get better given more time too.

You know she's fine once she's there so I wouldn't be worried.

Second the advice to ask somebody else to do drop off, even another nursery parent might be willing to walk her in? I had one like this … I think it might have become automatic, as I do believe she was happy (enough) there!