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So pissed of with this dad. Just need to vent.

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Bubble99 · 15/05/2008 21:18

I'm a nursery owner/PT under twos worker/cook.

A 16 month has been with us since he was one. He was originally F/T but has now gone down to three mornings a week as mum is on mat leave. She has a 2 month old baby and has kept him with us to a) make sure he doesn't lose his place and familiarity with us when she returns to work F/T and (b) have some time at home on her own with her baby and some sleep.

Dad dropped him off this morning - came into the room, I took his DS (without any whimpering) and we went to look at some of the babies' displays. Dad left.

Mum was due to collect him at 1pm but turned up at 12 as dad had been saying that he'd been " really crying" when he'd dropped him off.

I told her that he'd been absolutely fine and she muttered something about being made to feel guilty that DS was at nursery while she was not at work.

That's it, really. If money is not an issue (and from what I can gather, it isn't) why is he making her feel so shitty about having some time alone with her new baby?

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cheesesarnie · 15/05/2008 21:21

because hes an idiot

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Bubble99 · 15/05/2008 21:24

Isn't he?!

What an arse!

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SlartyBartFast · 15/05/2008 21:25

wanker

Shitemum · 15/05/2008 21:25

Because he doesn't spend enough time with his son to know when he is 'really crying' and when he isn't. Prat.

dylanthecat · 15/05/2008 21:26

just because they can afford it doesnt mean he doesnt think its a waste (not that Im saying it is) when shes at home "doing nothing"

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Bubble99 · 15/05/2008 21:29

Yes. I'm sure he thinks she's "doing nothing."

She looked knackered and said that she'd spent the whole morning feeling guilty ie. not catching up on sleep.

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dylanthecat · 15/05/2008 21:30

I like your job discription by the way!

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Bubble99 · 15/05/2008 21:33

dylan. Isn't it great?!

I love the under twos. There is no other job is the world that pays you to be cuddled by a whole heap of babies.

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dylanthecat · 15/05/2008 21:38

I like the 12-18 month olds, or the bigger ones not so much the babys because I find the activitys boring the toddlers are my favourite!

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Bubble99 · 15/05/2008 21:42

Our youngest is 11 months. Agree about the activities, too. It all goes a bit pear-shaped with the littlies, doesn't it?!

I am currently having a major conflict with our early years 'advisors' who seem to think that shaving foam is a good idea for one year olds. It isn't. On a ratio of one to three they will eat it!

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fanjolina · 15/05/2008 21:44

what a twunt

Miaou · 15/05/2008 21:47

shaving foam - has your EY advisor ever wiped her eyes with shaving foam on her hands? That stuff stings!

Re the prat dad - will you ring the mum at home to reassure her that her ds is fine?

dylanthecat · 15/05/2008 21:47

and its a bugger to clean! and you have parents that winge because they arnt clean when they go home!

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Bubble99 · 15/05/2008 21:57

He's not due in until Monday.

I probably won't phone as she may be asleep but I reminded her today that she can phone at any time to check he's OK.

We'll be doing spray cream next week, though we can't do it on a couple of days as we have a one year old with a severe dairy allergy (skin swells if a drop of milk falls on it, let alone ingested )

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