Not happy with how my son is treated at nursery with me working there as well

[ByNewTurtle]

Hello , I need advise please. I work in a nursery for almost a year. My son started there,he is 3 . I thought everything is alright but I’m starting to be unhappy with some things. I heard his teacher shouting his name , like shouting at them don’t know for what. And I don’t like it, was in another room, if my child and another child they argue for a toy , if my son has it and the other child said he had it first is being taken away from his hand and given to the other child)my child can’t speak yet, also punishment for not tiding up the toys he gets to stay inside for extra 10 minutes with other children not just him. But I think is a bit too much for 3 year olds to be punished like that. I would want to say something but I don’t know what to do. Please help . Many thanks .

Is this a regular way of treating the children? If so, surely you're aware of this from working there? Is this the first time you've witnessed shouting/taking toy/time outs?

It is a first time seeing this yes .

I think you need to speak to the leader of his room and find out what happened. Is he just 3 or almost 4? You mentioned he isn't speaking much yet, what is being done to support him with this? Shouting at children is never OK but voices do sometimes have to be raised in a preschool room to get the attention of children and stop a situation. Also keeping a child inside for not tidying sounds a bit off, unless of course they tipped a load of stuff out on purpose. In which case it would be a natural consequence to have to stay and help pick some of it up. You need ask what happened and then decide whether to speak to the manager and raise concerns.

What support is in place for him, as he's 3 and not yet speaking? Does he have English as an additional language?

Working in a nursery you know how difficult the "I had it first" "no I did" arguments can be. Sometimes both children genuinely believe they had it first and there's no right answer. Being non-speaking, does your child snatch toys from others? The staff might be making assumptions based on his previous behaviour - preschoolers quickly learn they can take advantage of that. It's not right at all. Not necessarily what's happening but it's something I've witnessed unfortunately. Did you witness a staff member taking toys from him? Did you see what happened before that?

I would definitely arrange a meeting with the manager, as a parent not an employee, and discuss your concerns.

Thanks for your reply’s . We are waiting for speech and language therapy. No he doesn’t snatch . He is such a good boy , no he doesn’t tip on purpose.

I would speak to her - 'Is X getting on OK? I heard you having to speak shout at to him. I was surprised he was put on time put as we don't usually do that.' Etc. I do think it's odd that this worker is dealing with him in a harsher way than usually. I assume there are other children with speech delays/who snatch etc. ( I know you said ds doesnt do this) I don't like it.