Am I being sensitive

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My daughters dad ( we are not together) was supposed to pick her up from nursery today at 3:15 she is 3 years old , but he never showed up and made no contact with me or the nursery to inform anyone , he's never done this before and I have never been late for pickup.

I was at work and had no idea until I answered a call from nursery at 3:22 to tell me no one had came to pick her up.

I know this has inconvenienced the teachers evening as she may have had appointments or anything ect and had to cancel because of this but the way her attitude on the phone was in my opinion very unprofessional and quite rude easing her voice and telling my to hurry up and speaking down to me

I then get to the nursery at around 3:50 so about 20 minutes late I ran up there as I don't drive and she spoke to me again in the most condescending way saying I know you work now ( which I have always ) but you can't do this we don't do that like she was speaking to a child I was nothing but apologetic and explained the situation and she kind of rolled her eyes at me and then speed walked past me as I put my child's coat on outside the door . I'm 22 and a first time parent is this normal , the letter for the late fee is £20 which is completely fine and I have no issue paying it but it's just the way she acted I'm feeling uneasy about .

The nursery teacher shouldn't have been rude but it's very inconvenient to have to wait behind for late parents. I'm in a 7am-6pm setting and three times in the last month I've had to stay til 6.30pm for late pick ups, meaning I miss my bus home and have to wait til 7.30pm for the next one.

I worked in childcare a few years ago and parents were late at least every week. It's not on because staff were staying past their shifts and missing buses and trains home. She may have spoken to you in what you thought was condescending but maybe it was justified. She didn't say anything out of turn and wants to ensure it doesn't happen again.

The tone wasn't necessary, but hopefully a product of general frustration and not targeted at you. I would try to move past that and focus on your DD's father and making it clear how unacceptable this was - and that he needs to reimburse you for the late fee!

And the ex? Did he got an ear full. Maybe he should be first point of contact next time.