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Dee198600 · 03/02/2025 20:22

Hi, I am looking for some advice as I have a tendency to overthink / worry too much.

My son is 3.5 and we moved house in December, so we transferred from the nursery my son had been at for 12 months to a different branch of the same nursery to try to keep things as normal as possible for him. We had parents evening 2 weeks before we left and key worker said they were happy with how he was progressing and the next thing to work on would be his letters / alphabet in new year as he will be starting school in September at age 4 (summer baby).

Anyway, long story short, new nursery approached me today to ask if my ds has SEN as it was noted in his transfer paperwork that there was a ‘targeted plan’ in place for him to help with his communication. This took me aback as this is the first time anything has been mentioned to me. New nursery are also at a loss as old nursery don’t have much information other than that sometimes he can take a little time to ‘warm up’ and communicate with his key worker. New nursery will monitor as they don’t know him well enough yet to gauge if they have any concerns.

Although I realise any help they can provide would be beneficial to ds, I suppose I just feel upset that I was not made aware of any potential issues and also surely it isn’t a cause for concern that not all children are outgoing and some are a little more reserved. I guess it’s just difficult to know what is ‘normal’.

i would be grateful for your thoughts on whether a child being a little cautious / reserved is really a cause for concern?

Thank you

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
CarpetKnees · 03/02/2025 23:55

Obviously no concern re a child being a little more cautious than their peers, but sometimes there can be a difference in perception around what the parent thinks and what the Nursery thinks.

Also, it is very common for a child to present differently in Nursery from what they do at home.

Either way, if they had concerns, then that ought to have been communicated to you.

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