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Blatant lie or miscommunication?

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BoringAF19 · 23/09/2024 21:43

DS is 22 months and we have successfully potty trained at home. I took 5 days off with him and he’s doing amazing, takes himself for a pee and poo on the potty without prompting.

He went to nursery today for the first time since starting potty training and initially was in the baby room and moved to the 2-3 room in the afternoon as he’ll be moving in there tomorrow. When I collected him I was told he had loads of accidents and that he’d woken from his nap with a SOAKING nappy (was really that emphasised) and that they were concerned he was withholding his pee and that if there isn’t an improvement in 2 weeks he will require pull ups again.

So here’s my issue, I contacted a member of staff in the baby room because I wanted to find out what happened. It turns out it wasn’t a disaster at all. DS did have an accident in the morning however he had training pants on so caught most of it, he successfully done a pee in the potty and was dry when waking from his nap and when he woke he done a huge pee in the potty then was taken to the bigger room straight after this. He had a small accident in his training pants but not enough to soak through which I noticed when we got home.

I’m not sure if this has been a blatant lie because they think I’m potty training too young or if there’s genuinely been a miscommunication. I’m not sure any nursery mentions going back pull ups on day 1 of nursery following potty training but please correct me if I’m wrong?

I really want to email the nursery to arrange a meeting with the manager but DH said to leave it to see how he goes the rest of the week and if we’re not happy to call a meeting but I’m worried that may set DS back if he’s not getting the support her needs.

Anyone have any ideas how we proceed? I did ask for their potty training policy/support information last week but not received anything and I didn’t have this issue with the same nursery when DD potty trained (she was 3).

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Whatatodo79 · 24/09/2024 03:28

I'd just hang on and see how things go over the next week or so. Probably just a story that got a bit muddled in the retelling.

Happyinarcon · 24/09/2024 05:31

I know I’m probably going to sound like a nut but I was lied to by my daughters primary school about ongoing bullying situations and ever since then my first instinct is to not trust whatever I get told. My money would be on your child feeling frightened or unsafe at nursery and having more accidents.

Holidays78 · 24/09/2024 05:41

It's normal for a child to be dry at home where they feel secure know where the potty is etc, and then have accidents at nursery. Probably a bit of miscommunication at nursery. Give him a week and see how he goes.

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