Should I remove my child from nursery

[Oneofakind92]

i think I’ve made a big mistake sending my daughter to nursery, she is 3 years old and started this September in a nursery within a school, she does 3 hours a day Monday to Friday, but she is so unhappy crying before nursery and when she comes out of nursery, she used to be very independent and always interested in new things, but now she’s very withdrawn and not wanting to even play much, she’s also having bad dreams which she’s never had before, whenever anyone mentions nursery she bursts into tears, she’s also not doing well with potty training and still in nappy’s I’ve spoken to her nursery teachers and they have said on one occasion that she’s fine while there but most days they don’t say anything just let her out the gate and walk away. She also gets upset about the teachers and says she doesn’t want to see them anymore, I think she just may not be ready for that kind of environment, but I’m at a loss of what to do, Do I keep her in nursery and hope she settles eventually or do I pull her out? I don’t work so I’m at home 24/7 to be with her so I don’t need to have her in nursery but I thought she would love it and it’s heartbreaking to see her like this everyday, I just need some advice :)

I would find a better nursery where the staff give you a decent handover

Try a different one, and maybe do two full days rather than lots of half days? Then you can actually do nice things together on the days she's not in.

Some nurseries can be very busy and overwhelming environments, and it’s a big jump to going from being at home to going every day. She might settle better if she starts with three mornings a week to begin with.

I thought about taking my daughter out of nursery as she used to cause a fuss everyday before nursery but decided against it as we wanted her to have social interaction. once she is there she loves it. her fussiness changed once we swapped afternoons to mornings. an afternoon start meant that she would have to stop playing with her toys at home to get ready for nursery, but in the morning she was ready to start the day and was happy to get dressed for nursery. if your daughter does afternoons try swapping those for mornings if that works for you, because it may be that she hates disrupting her day for nursery. if she does mornings and still hates nursery while there, then as the others suggest, try a different nursery.

i probably downplayed it when i said fussiness. what i meant was full blown tantrums, running away and hiding and the process of getting ready taking an hour on most occasions. now it takes 15 minutes.