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DS suddenly really upset about going to preschool

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BathToysEverywhere · 15/09/2024 17:41

My DS is 3.7 and has been going to the same preschool for a year. He settled absolutely fine last year, had the odd tears at drop off over the course of the year but they were very few and far between.

We’ve had the summer break and he started back last week. He’s in the ‘main nursery’ now rather than the 2 year old room. He played in the main nursery everyday when in the 2 year old class so it’s not a new space for him. He also has a new key person. Anyway, last week drop offs were awful. It was a struggle to get him out the house to even go. He’s crying hysterically, repeatedly saying he doesn’t want to go. And they have to peel
him off me kicking and screaming when we get there. The staff have reassured me he’s fine once I’ve left. And sent me lots of happy smiley pictures where he looks like he’s having a great time. So it seems to just be the drop off/nerves about going that are troubling him.

He’s due at nursery tomorrow and since around lunchtime today he’s been on and off crying saying he doesn’t want to go tomorrow. It’s really pulling on my heart strings and it’s making for a very stressful/difficult afternoon! I know tomorrow’s going to be a struggle. I have every faith in the nursery and the staff, they’re absolutely brilliant. I understand it’s changed quite a bit from last year for him and he’s maybe not feeling comfortable there yet. And I feel if I can keep getting him there, he will eventually get used to it and settle a bit better. I’m just wondering if anyone has any tips on how I can help
him overcome these nerves and anxieties. Or any advice on ways to actually get him out of the house to go. Not quite sure how I managed it last week! I really don’t want to cave and say he doesn’t have to go anymore as I feel like he’ll be even worse come next September when he has to start school.

Any help or words of wisdom for a drained and frazzled mama are greatly appreciated!

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
BathToysEverywhere · 15/09/2024 19:39

Anyone? 😅

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ThisIsNotARealAvo · 15/09/2024 20:17

Try not to think about it in terms of he doesn't like preschool. It's more that he would rather stay with you which is normal. Can he take an object of yours for comfort? Could school help with a visual timetable so he understands how long it is until you collect him? You are right to persevere with it as he does have a nice time when he is there. I have worked in EYFS for 20 years and "mummy's going" is worse than "mummy's gone". Once parent leaves children settle really quickly.

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