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Need advice on whether to address situation

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GentleNekomata · 28/08/2024 07:51

Hiya,

I have a situation where I need a bit of help with and I’ll try and explain this as best I can. I work in a nursery as a room manager and came back last year after having a baby, now my baby is a toddler and recently turned 2 and moved to the toddler room and I work in the preschool room now.

Now the room manager of the toddler room, we’ve always clashed more she seems to have a problem with me I’m 28 and shes 45. I’ve worked at this Nursery longer than her also. Now it’s a constant ‘you can’t do that, can you not do this’ and it’s driving me insane but now my issue and concern is with my toddler. She wanted to be my toddlers key worker when she moved up and she is so she hands over everyday when she’s in and all I get is negatives ‘she hasn’t listened, she hasn’t tidied up she’s influencing the others’. Now we’re told to sandwhich any bad with good…. I’m not getting any good and it’s left me with thinking she’s a bad child and I’m doubting myself, when at home my toddler tidies and other staff say the same that she has moments of not listening but she’s a good girl and does tidy some times etc.

im only getting fed back bad and I have a lot of anxiety , I’m currently pregnant with my second also, I feel like I can’t go to the manager because I get the ‘well you struggle to blur the time and so do they, they need to tell you’ and it’s honestly making me down. I’ve said a couple of times about moving her due to them having a problem with my daughter seeing me and becoming upset which I try to avoid but now I’m seriously considering it.

I think I’ve explained everything but my biggest question is shall I just speak to the manager and before I do say I’m coming to them as a parent not a member of staff whose a parent.

Oh and I will add this woman has had numerous complaints made against her by parents also.

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
qualifiedazure · 28/08/2024 08:00

Have you tried saying something to your colleague, like 'wow, you only ever have negative things to tell me!' and see if it changes her attitude?

Ultimately the lines between parent/staff are blurred when you have your child in the same setting though and I'd think about moving her.

YellowHatt · 28/08/2024 08:11

I’d ask for a different key worker. This obviously isn’t working.

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