2 year old starting new nursery

[sophiajanexx]

Hi there - my daughter just turned two. Five months ago we relocated across country. She was with a childminder at our old location which she grew comfortable in after months of separation anxiety. When we moved she started at a nursery, she now LOVES the place and her key workers and generally seems happy going and waves bye to me now at the door (which is bitter sweet for a mum!). The only problem with this nursery is the cost. Fees went up in April and it is now completely unaffordable and we are struggling with the fees (£80/day!!!). We have found another nursery (even closer to home and more affordable) who takes toddlers from 2 years old, so we have decided to move her to this nursery at the start of Sept. I am completely and utterly riddled with guilt that she will not settle in the new place and miss the old nursery and I feel awful moving her as kids struggle with change. We know deep in our hearts it is for the best as we will be saving more than £1000 a month which will contribute to a better future for us all. Not sure how this post will help but just looking for some reassurance from other mums who have been through a similar thing ! TIA xx

Do it! I was worried when my 2 year old changed nursery, but actually the new one is better anyway. Expensive doesn't mean better. And it's important to do what's best for your family, you'll be more relaxed if finances aren't such a burden.

She will be eligible for 15hrs funding now (although check childcare choices for eligibility). Will that make a difference to being able to afford to keep her there and many people can claim back 80% in vouchers through their workplace schemes so check into this if you aren’t claiming any help at the moment.

We live in Wales, and are not eligible for the flying start scheme as we don't live in a 'deprived' area. Waiting for the welsh government to expand their scheme to ALL 2 year olds. Otherwise we are waiting for the 30 hours free for 3 year olds.

You're right. I saw a quote the other day that said 'be the parent who asks themselves if they are responding to their childs actual feelings or am I reacting because of my OWN feelings'.

I think I need to work on my own anxiety so that I am not projecting onto her.

Thanks for the reminder :)

She'll be fine, we moved our DD when she was 18 months because of relocating and she was settled in a couple of weeks. Children that age live in the present really and are very adaptable