4 year not moving to the older kids grouo

[Mimosa20]

I have a bright 4 year-old (born mid year) who’s been in same nursery since age 1. She’s been in the current group for one year and this group had 25 kids and 3-4 adults. Now the majority of kids are moving up a group but not my daughter. I know that two kids (or more) who are younger than her are moving up. My daughter is going to be left with 2 friends only (one is half a year younger and one her age) in this new set up which will have 15 kids. Majority of the new kids who are moving to this new set up are from the group below with the youngest 2,5.

As a mum I’m concerned she won’t have friends of same age and that the younger kids will take up a lot of attention. My daughter has a 2 year younger sister so she’ll get to play with smaller kids at home. One mum was surprised when she heard my daughter is staying in this current group as she believed she’s turning 5 as she’s mature (and I’ve been getting this feedback during the year from staff).

I appreciate it can be difficult to organise the groups, but I don’t know if it’s in its place to question their decision now that I know so few “old” kids are staying? Also any trips out are going to be difficult when the small kids walk so slowly.

Speak to the nursery see what they say

just ask them why? I am sure they have their reasons.

Ask the nursery? But also if your child is already 4 surely they are going to school in September?

Is she starting primary in September or have you " deferred" . It could be the other group are the rising 5s who will be going to school after the holidays and are being prepared for it!

We’re not in the Uk and preschool doesn’t start until the year you turn 6. Yes I need to speak to them but feels I’m a moany mother.

Talk to the nursery. This happened with my DC who was miserable as their main friends moved up due to being older. Find out the reasons for then not moving as being with the younger ones is also likely to hold them back as they'll be bored.

At that age, other factors are far more important than age. Just ask them in a non-moaning, non-confrontational way, that you're aware the majority of her friends are moving and what is the plan for your DC?

You won't understand why if you don't ask so I'm amazed you haven't frankly. It could be your child is "behind" in something which is an important thing to know or it could just be a numbers thing which would alay any concerns of yours.

Is she fully toilet trained? That was a major deciding factor on who moved rooms in my children's nursery.

She’s been fully dry (night also) since December 23. She’s not behind as far as im concerned, at least nothing has been mentioned during development meetings. Opposite, they think she’s doing very well. I have to ask them, maybe it’s a good thing being in a smaller group. But as mentioned, I’m also concerned about boredom and not being given development appropriate things to be busy with and progress.

I haven’t asked yet because the group info came quite late and it took me a while to realize who’s moving groups. Now it’s holidays.

Talk to them. If it's a school nursery, email them as there will likely be someone working even if the kids aren't in.

I know what you mean as my 4yo DD is now the oldest in her nursery - she was born a few days after the school cut off so all her friends are going to school in September and have moved to the out of school club part of the nursery. She's not too happy but at least we know the reason and can explain it to her.

Could this just be an admin error?