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G0thMum · 23/05/2024 13:27

Hiya, first time poster so un sure on where I was to post it.

Basically my LG started flying start back in February and she seemed like she really enjoyed herself everytime she went but recently she seems not like her usual self, all bubbly and happy when shes coming out.

When I first met the teachers they all seemed so helpful and lovely and would always tell me about how her day had been and would actually talk to me about her but they just seem off lately. She was bothering with the girls loads but not so much now, worried she might not have any friends.

I started to notice that everytime I'd pick her up her face would be dirty and grubby but all the other children looked like they had been cleaned up. She's literally the only one who comes out looking scruffy and I've now lost count on how many times she's been given back to me drenched in her own urine. They used to change her bottoms but now don't seem to bother and I always make sure she's got spare clothes just incase of an accident as she is toilet trained. Does anyone else get given their child bad filthy because none of the other kids in her group are like it.

I always make sure that she's well dressed and presentable. We never send her to flying start dirty or anything but today picking her up she was yet again filthy. She had been crying and even when in the car continued to have tears rolling down her face. They had said that her shoes were too small and that her socks were wet and filthy coming in when I know for a fact I sent her in clean. I'm just unsure on why theyre trying to make out I've sent her like that when I didn't, she is always clean and well put together. Lately aswell when I'm dropping her in she's started to cower behind my legs and seemed hesitant to even go in which is unlike her as she used to love going in everyday. They obviously aren't watching her properly as she's managed to flood the sinks in the bathroom a handful of times and mind you the taps they have you have to hold down for any water to come out, as soon as you let go the water instantly stops. But she's done this plenty by stuffing tissue into the plug hole to block it and held the tap down to overflow it. If they were watching her properly that wouldn't be happening as those taps take forever to pour water out of let alone fill up a sink to flood the toilets

I just want to know anyone's thoughts on all of this because I just can't find anything helpful or relatable online.

Sorry for the essay lol, thanks for any feedback

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TwoThreeOrNotTwoThree · 23/05/2024 13:30

If you have any hesitation at all involving a nursery, pull your child out immediately. The fact that your baby is distressed going into nursery and is coming out drenched in urine is not a good sign. I'm so sorry, but you need to follow your gut instincts here.

Aquamarine1029 · 23/05/2024 13:35

I would never send her there again. It sounds absolutely horrible, and I would report them. Something's not right.

Genuinelyenquiring · 23/05/2024 13:37

Absolutely not OK. This never happens at my children's nursery and if it did, I'd hit the roof. I'd remove her immediately.

coffeepleeease · 23/05/2024 13:41

Being left drenched in her own urine is neglect! Report them!

skkyelark · 23/05/2024 15:15

Another one saying absolutely not okay – changing her after an accident is a very clear part of their responsibilities. Flooding the bathroom once I might overlook, but she definitely shouldn't be unattended long enough to do it repeatedly (especially as it's now known she will!).

Nejnej · 23/05/2024 15:21

I'd move her immediately too. Especially based on her cowering behind your legs and coming home soaked in urine - completely unacceptable on their part IMO.

My son comes back covered in paint, but his hands and face are clean and his clothes are dry.

G0thMum · 23/05/2024 16:48

Thanks for the thoughts. I'll have a word with the boss tomorrow to find out what the heck has been going on. I'm a young mum so I felt like they were just walking all over me but it's humiliating for my daughter to go through it all

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HAF1119 · 23/05/2024 17:46

Advocate for your child. And vote with your feet. The other children are all being treated well whilst yours is left dirty and covered in wee if she has an accident? That's not normal - and not okay!

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