Settling in at nursery

[Summersunshine91]

I suppose what I'm looking to get out of this thread is to see if any other parents have been through something similar regarding settling into nursery.
My daughter has just turned 10 months and has recently started nursery - she officially started on Monday of this week after completing her settles last week.
I have just been to collect my daughter after nursery called to say she was inconsolable and she was refusing breakfast/bottle and also refusing to go for a nap - my daughter had been there less than 2 hours this morning and her session should have ended at 13.00.
I was contacted on her first session (Monday) to collect her as she became very unsettled during lunch but they contacted me an hour before her session was due to end so my daughter had done great. They said she was a little unsettled in the morning during Mondays session but had breakfast and had a nap plus a bottle.
A positive from today's session is that she didn't cry on handover whereas she did on Monday and on all of the settles.

My daughter doesn't like the loud noises from the other babies (we don't have any other babies in our family) and she starts to cry when they make any loud noises. I have been taking my daughter to baby group twice a week since she was 3 months old and she sometimes cries when we enter the group but then is easily settled with toys. She does cry when other babies cry. However, my daughter isn't a quiet baby - she is very vocal and loves to make noise herself in terms of babbling and high pitched screaming (finding her voice!)

I don't actually return back to work from maternity leave until June as I wanted to allow time for my daughter to settle - I have let the nursery know of this and to contact me with any issues. I asked today if I should come into the room with her tomorrow to settle her but they said it might be better just to see how it goes and they will contact me if any issues - I suppose they think if I come into the room with her, it may cause confusion for her.

I know she only officially started on Monday so it's very early days but I am feeling so much guilt leaving her at nursery and then on pick up, seeing her red face and swollen eyes because she's been crying. Hearing her snuffles in the back of the car breaks my heart and I did shed a few tears after I put her down for a nap 💔

I'm just wondering if any other parents have bern through similar regarding their child settling in at nursery? It would also be great to hear from any parents whose child may have struggled with the loud noises from other children and did they get used to this eventually?

For reference, my daughters days at nursery are:
Monday - 8-2
Thursday - 8-1
Friday - 8-5

Thanks for any support/advice, I know some may read this and think I need to give it time, which I certainly will but I just would like to see if others have been through similar and how long it took for their little one to settle. 💐

It took so long for my DS to settle (similar age) that he didn't actually start for weeks after he was meant to - we got stuck on 2-hour settling sessions for ages and I had to keep picking him up. It was meant to go: 1x 1 hour with parent there, 1 x 1 hour without parent, 1 x 2 hours without parent, start. Eventually they apologetically said they'd have to start charging us, and I think charged us half price for the mornings we had booked as he was only doing 2 hours max! I think it didn't help that the settling sessions were quite spaced out in the week, and maybe your DD is struggling a bit with the long gap between Monday and Thursday?

Anyway, I can't remember how many weeks it took (maybe a couple of months of really gradual build ups), but he did settle and now (at almost three) loves nursery and goes bouncing in every morning past loads of much clingier children. He is pleased to see me at pick-up time but can be quite hard to extract if he's having too much fun.