Nursery putting all children in nappies

[BeGratefulOfGlimmers]

I’d like to understand if I’m being unreasonable or if this is standard practice in nursery.

Talking to my 3 year old son today he said that he ‘didn’t like being put in nappies for nap time at nursery’. Came out the blue and will certainly checking he’s not making up stories. The reason I question it is because he’s been in pants for a good 6 months - nap times and overnight at home. He said ‘we all are’. Will certainly be raising this - but is this standard practice for nurseries to be doing this? It seems counter productive, lazy even contemptible.

I’d really welcome others thoughts and advice to understand if I’m upset unnecessarily.

Not done in any my children attended

Definitely doesnt happen at all nurseries - my daughters is the opposite: NOT putting a nappy on for naptime even when i asked them to, so she ended up having daily accidents 🙄

If the kids werent worried about it i wouldnt object to a nappy going on, but in your sons case i would ask them to make sure he stays nappy-free.

This never happened with our three year olds, donkey’s years ago. I wouldn’t be happy either.

Why are they napping at three?

No not happening at any nursery I know of but definitely no nap times in any nurseries for 3 year olds where I am

I don't think this is usual. My children also never napped at that age. I actually worked at a nursery yesterday (supply) and none of the 3 and 4 year olds were given the opportunity to nap!

No, not usual practice at all.

Was there ever a time when he did use nappies for naps and pants the rest of the time? Even just for a few weeks when he first potty trained? Could they have made a note to put him in a nappy then, then either you forgot to mention when this changed, or the message didn't get passed on to the right staff.

I have mixed feelings about this. I can see nurseries doing this as they are often overworked and understaffed, so means children aren’t lying around all wet. Not great I know but it does worry me sometimes at nurseries. Alternatively they may have just got confused and thought that’s what he did (as lots of kids do have pull ups for naps). They may have a policy that if a kids wets through at nap time then they have to wear one.

Either way, have a chat. If it’s a policy you should be told about it.

Exactly my thoughts, especially as he has been potty trained for 6months +. I appreciate in some circumstances it might be needed but a blanket nappy ‘policy’ seems unnecessary. It could actually have the opposite effect in that children feel they need a nappy. I’m really upset about it.

Most children who are young enough to nap are young enough to need a nappy when they're asleep (even the ones who are dry during the day). It's also not unusual for a child who has been dry for 6 months to still wear nappies at bedtime/naptime. I wouldn't be massively upset about it, just tell them that your son doesn't need a nappy. It's a reasonable mistake for them to have made.

@Paddleboarder at home he won’t nap, no amount of activities will tire him out but at nursery (4 days a week) he sleeps for over an hour… I sometimes wish he would at home so I could tidy!

@NuffSaidSam fair point. The nursery in general is great, staff are awesome - and I’ve shared that feedback with them. Just this one niggle.

Mine still needed a nap most days until nearly age 4. A basic search online says no concerns if a child naps right up to age 6, they're all different.. (just noting the comments of why a 3 year old would nap!)

My nursery asked with regards to naps if he should be nappy or pants. I'm surprised they went with nappy without even talking to you!

Its also not unusual for school aged children to wear pull ups at bedtime as they don't produce the right hormone.

Ask the nursery why.

Probably because a lot of three year olds still need naps. My daughter still had naptime until she was 6.

OP that does sound weird, I wouldn't like them insisting on nappies for a potty trained child if they're not having accidents during naptimes. I'd check with nursery, might just be 3 year old imagination story.

Do they know he doesn’t wear a nappy to nap? From experience in my nursery most children wear a pull up or nappy for bed so maybe they didn’t realise? Seems more likely than putting all children in them

DS chooses. But he’s not reliable yet. And he had an accident during a nap at home that shook his confidence.

I would think it's because quite a lot of children that age do wear nappies at nap time. Where I work there is only one child who doesn't wear a nappy when he sleeps.
Was this a one off? Maybe they just got confused and put a nappy on by mistake. I wouldn't be angry but I would just remind them that your son doesn't wear a nappy when he sleeps.
Quite a few preschool children sleep. We have so many now they have to sleep in the preschool room whereas they used to sleep in toddlers sleep room but there's too many now.

A lot of children still need a nappy at nap time. Just let them know he doesn’t and it’ll be put in his notes. We have a mix of those who do and those who don’t but we tend to put them in a nappy unless told
otherwise, especially if they are two or only just three.