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We're switching nursery in January even though he's happy, I feel so guilty

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theotherfossilsister · 21/11/2023 10:17

My son (fourteen months corrected, sixteen actual) is moving to a new nursery in January

There were things we were really unhappy about with our current nursery, for example they left a child behind on an outing - but they have massively improved since then. As a result of this however they no longer take under twos on any outings. The staff are lovely though - he has a real bond with his keyworker and two other staff in the transition room.

They do however keep saying how tired he is, and I think a lot of this is because it takes forty minutes to get home from nursery, plus half an hour for me to get there from my work meaning we get home at about six twenty, then need to do dinner, playtime, bath, story, teeth and milk.

My fil is also dieing of cancer.

As a result of this we've decided to move ds to nursery two minutes from in laws house. It's still a forty minute journey in the morning (more if he decides he wants to walk himself.) However it means he can be picked up at five by mil, it's fifteen minutes walk from my work so I can be there by half five, he can have dinner, bath, etc there and then we can either stay the night or get a taxi home with him in his sleep clothes. This also enables him to spend more time with Fil if Fil makes it to January. It also means he'll be far less tired and in a better routine

This nursery also do daily outings, even if it's just to the local park. I just feel really sad about it though

He's in nursery three days a week. How will a child that age cope with change? Will he miss his keyworker and other lovely staff? Will he miss his friends?

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PuttingDownRoots · 21/11/2023 10:25

Its likely he will forget quickly. . Especially if it means more time with Granny, Mummy etc.

Anneta · 21/11/2023 10:25

Children are very resilient and I suspect that he will settle very well. I very much doubt at that age that he will miss his friends. To put your mind at rest could you start your child just one day a week at the new nursery so that he has a chance to start to get used to his new surroundings? I don’t blame you for moving him. Leaving a child behind on an outing is a huge red flag!

theotherfossilsister · 21/11/2023 10:32

Thank you both

I hadn't thought of a slow transition and we handed in notice on his current nursery yesterday which made me really sad, and agreed start dates for new nursery. It might have been a good way to do it, to see if he did settle

The child was left behind on an outing in July, just as we started and we thought of moving him then but literally couldn't get another nursery place anywhere for the days needed at that point. It's weird, I really wanted to move him then, but seeing how much he loves nursery now I feel sad. It feels so cosy at pickup on winter evenings too.

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