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Nervous about moving 15mo from childminder to nursery

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TheRookieMum · 31/10/2023 07:00

So DS has been with a childminder since he turned 1. He's settled well there. But we also applied for a nursery place thinking the lists are very long round here and rumour amongst local mums had it, we could be waiting a year or more. Not true. DS has been offered a place and would start around 15/16 months old at the start of January, just 3 months after starting at the childminder's, or 2.5 months considering Christmas. Will this be hugely unsettling for him?

The childminder is great, but has her down sides and we always said we wanted a nursery place before school (just couldn't get a place before I had to go back to work). It's now come a lot quicker than a year, but after starting at the childminder's, and unfortunately if we don't take up the nursery place, we will lose it.

Will it be too upsetting to him at this age to move him so soon after settling at the childminder's?

We need to give the childminder notice within the next 2 weeks. I'm increasingly nervous about whether we're doing the right thing for DS or not.

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kittythames · 31/10/2023 07:02

I don't know why you'd move him if he's happy and settled and the childminder is "great"? I'm biased but I think nursery suits older children better.

TheRookieMum · 31/10/2023 07:04

kittythames · 31/10/2023 07:02

I don't know why you'd move him if he's happy and settled and the childminder is "great"? I'm biased but I think nursery suits older children better.

Because of the downsides which I've not listed but are an issue for us which we cannot change without moving him.

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Biasquia · 31/10/2023 07:05

kittythames · 31/10/2023 07:02

I don't know why you'd move him if he's happy and settled and the childminder is "great"? I'm biased but I think nursery suits older children better.

Just my opinion but I agree with this. Our eldest went to nursery young but the older 2 were with childminders until preschool at 3, they thrived there. All childcare provision has downsides as you said.

Biasquia · 31/10/2023 07:06

TheRookieMum · 31/10/2023 07:04

Because of the downsides which I've not listed but are an issue for us which we cannot change without moving him.

Sorry I was responding to your first post, you are of course correct some downsides do absolutely change things.

KateyCuckoo · 31/10/2023 07:21

Well you won't lose the nursery place for good, seemingly places come up much more regularly than you anticipated? So tell them you need a September 2024 start and they can offer it to the next person on the list.

Very unfair all round to let the childminder and baby settle with each other and then move him on so quickly.

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