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Take three yr old out of nursery?

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Theshore · 08/10/2023 15:04

My 3 y/o DS has been at the same nursery for two years now, but has recently moved into a new room and his behaviour at home is awful. He’s saying things to be mean, hitting, kicking, just so hard to spend time with. It’s worse whenever he plays with a particular group of boys, but good days with him have just been few and far between the past few months. He has a baby brother, 4 months old, so there has been other change in his life, but his behaviour has been so much worse since starting the new room.

It’s pretty intimidating to think about not sending him in, but his behaviour is just driving a wedge between him and his family (my parents sometimes struggle with his behaviour too and he’s hurt my MIL a couple of times), and I’m just so sure it would be better if he had some time at home with me, grandparents, seeing little friends and going to playgroups for company

I’ve seen quite a lot of threads with people struggling with the same, but never really any updates… so my question is this - did anyone struggling with the nursery behaviour actually go for it and take their DC out of nursery?

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unvillage · 09/10/2023 01:23

Have you spoken to nursery? Not in an accusatory way - just to say "Sam has been using xxx words, xxx behaviour at home recently"

How do you know his behaviour is worse with this "particular group of boys"? They're all attending the nursery in the same room? Do you know which days each boy attends, and that your son plays with them each time?

Do speak to nursery about your son's behaviour, and mention hitting, kicking, rough behaviour with his brother. Are you blaming his behaviour on him being in the room at nursery? Are you saying that his family don't want to see him because of his behaviour? I find that pretty shocking. Surely you are with him more than he is at nursery?

Is he at nursery full time? Maybe he would find life a little easier if he had some time at home with his parents as you suggest!

Catred4 · 15/04/2024 21:39

Hi, I’m experiencing the exact same thing - what did you do in the end?

PrincessScarlett · 17/04/2024 07:50

I'd say that it's just as much having a new baby in the family as a problem with nursery. It's quite common for first born children to be jealous of baby and act out/behave badly for attention. Also, he is aware that you are at home with baby and he's not there.

I wouldn't take him out of nursery. I would speak to them and ask for help with his behaviour. Presumably they know there is a new baby as it's advisable to tell childcare settings of any major changes at home which might impact on behaviour. Good nurseries will work with you and have a plan you can both work on.

Jaspree · 25/06/2024 15:20

I'm found a nursery for my two year old girl. Her behaviour is not good.she always show a anger don't know why?

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